super-bob avatar
super-bob
5
1 month ago

ADHD is horrible to live with

People say it’s a strength or a gift but I can’t relate to that. It makes my life HELL to forget everything all the time, the constant grinding and inability to calm down, burning myself, breaking things, etc. People say it’s society the problem, not us. But I don’t agree, all these things I’m struggling with would be there with me even if I lived in the jungle.

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swedish boy avatar
swedish boy
3w

Actually if it is a superpower it's not a problem and psychiatric diagnosis are per definition problems so then its actually not adhd that you have. Its as simple as that. Its the same stupid to call adhd a superpower as calling blindness a superpower. Its defined as a deficit or a handicap so...

sonnek avatar
sonnek
3w

That’s exactly what I mean when saying I can‘t hear that superpower stuff anymore. Of course it’s important for everyone‘s self acceptance or self love to identify personal strengths and focus on abilities and chances instead of seeking for challenges or disadvantages. And yes, I also like facets of my personality like the creativity, the thousands of good ideas or my learning speed because of hyperfocus and lack of fear. But that all has at least the same amount of drawbacks and the condition ADHD itself is clearly not a superpower for me - otherwise I wouldn’t need medication and ergo therapy plus frequent questioning of my mental health, tiring work on impulse control or asking myself why my whole family is such a mess.

sprinnt avatar
sprinnt
3w

I think sometimes it can be super great and sometimes it’s a literal nightmare to have my brain lol. Because I can remember the smallest little details but forget to literally eat a whole meal lol

theadhdmom avatar
theadhdmom
4w

Something in between, maybe? It's not the worst thing ever, since I learned to like myself a lot, but I wouldn't say it's a superpower either...it's just what it is, I guess. But having a diagnosis does make one wonder about themselves more, cause you are literally told about you "flaws", so we go on with our lifes way more attentive and reflecting about ourselves than someone whos just "normal". Which is too bad because some people could really use some insight 🙃

boyofsummer avatar
boyofsummer
4w

legit the symptoms are just what “inconveniences” we cause neurotypical people instead of what we actually experience it’s so ridiculous💀💀 like “frequently forgets things” as opposed to “brain/body disconnect when wanting to do a task”

SteLe avatar
SteLe
1mo

Macht es dich nicht zu einem einmaligen Menschen, der seine Macken hat?! Ja, es ist auch bei mir an manchen Tagen überdurchschnittlich schlimm. Ich lerne jeden Tag mehr mit mir umzugehen. Umso mehr du über dich lachst desto weniger passieren diese "schlimmen" Dinge. Umso besser du damit umgehst desto weniger stören sich andere daran. Ich schaue mir im Alltag andere Menschen an und die haben auch sehr "blöde Macken". Der Unterschied ist, dass die anderen sich dessen gar nicht bewusst sind. Also kann man doch sagen, dass wir eine Superkraft besitzen nämlich die der Selbstreflektion? Und durch diese Superkraft können wir über uns selbst lachen und auch etwas ändern an Dingen die uns extrem stören. Mach eine Liste von diesen Dingen die dich an dir extrem stören und vergleiche diese mit den Macken der anderen. Also ich möchte mit niemandem in meinem Umfeld tauschen wollen 😄 Echt nicht! Einige meiner schlimmsten Macken habe ich schon verändern können. Aber wir wissen ja alle: Fertig werden wir nie, denn das Leben verändert sich jeden Tag. Also lache ich auch darüber wieder. Wenn du deine Stärken kennst, denke nur an diese. Denn in 10 Jahren sind deine Stärken wichtiger als deine Schwächen, wenn du in Erinnerungen schwelgst.

FuzzyFun avatar
FuzzyFun
1mo

I think it’s both at the same time. I call it my double edged sword. It’s the other side of my gifts that’s made even worse by living in a neurotypical world. Finding tools that effectively help me manage is making a huge difference in my daily life. I’m a big fan of DBT at the moment although check back in 2 weeks to see if I’m still applying it after the shiny wears off 🤣

AquaKitty avatar
AquaKitty
3w

Ok checking in. How’s DBT?

sonnek avatar
sonnek
1mo

Can‘t hear that „superpower“ stuff anymore 🙈

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