Anyone else says ‘huh’ or ‘sorry?’ every time someone speaks to you?

kiddstarr2.0

4mo

All the time

mara.mimimi

8mo

Actually nowadays I just say “I’m sorry I couldn’t listen / wasn’t prepared to listen, can you please repeat it” 😅 Or if I got the context I’ll ask “what’s with topic xy”

ultdirk

10mo

I like to think I'm buffering the process and that's why i lag

monkey girl

10mo

Yes always then my brain catches up right after

pastelprincess

12mo

Unfortunately 😂

Alexis09

Hahaha love that! 💯 me😅😅😅🥳🥳

real omg 😭

ashxx

SAME

alicat13

Yes this is from a slower processing speed! I have this all the time and by the time I’m done saying what or huh I’ve processed it all already

adhdteach

OMG SAME!!!!! I have a slow processing speed

bubblesbling

Yes! Thought I was going deaf for the longest time.

bluedreamdragon

I do this everyday! I hear them just fine but my brain takes a bit to process what they just said. It’s involuntary. I don’t even realize I do it

meOOow

If someone gives me too many instructions at once I stare at them with a dumb look for a few seconds too long trying to properly process it all. It’s horrible especially at work because I feel like I look dumb when I’m just lagging a little but I can’t tell them that or properly explain myself because that’s too personal for coworkers

Mush4Brains

8mo

Exactly!! After I retired, I went to work as a sales clerk. Low pay, less stress and way more fun than Corporate Management. However, cashing out every customer was a step-by-step process for someone with ADHD. I had to focus on every step. CO-workers did not comprehend reaching around me, tearing off the receipt and handing it to the customer - while not a big deal for most everyone else - was a huge deal to me. That tiny well-intended interruption caused me to lose focus on the entire transaction. And, you’re right - it’s too difficult to explain. We can’t put a bandaid on it, point to it and say, “This is where it hurts.”

Shivvi

I’m also deaf in one ear so this is me even if no one has said anything!

iamgaydhd

When I say sorry I have feelings of shame attached as it feels a though I have done something wrong when in reality it’s my ADHD brain. The people in my inner circle are also learning and trying to be supportive so I don’t feel this way. Hope this makes sense ☺️

paula_mm

😂😂😂

iamgaydhd

All day everyday, I’m trying to learn to not say sorry rather- could you please clarify what you’re saying I don’t quite understand. Also letting others know that this is something that you’re working on.

Sam ZT

I try not to say sorry as much as possible. (Just ask my ex-husband lol). I think women especially, and perhaps us ADHDers, apologize too much. I don’t have to say sorry like I do when I pass someone in an aisle. I didn’t do anything wrong and I’m apologizing for normal behavior. I get frazzled a lot at check outs too, feeling like I can’t take a minute to find my debit card without feeling a ton of anxiety and pressure like everyone is waiting on me.

paula_mm

Why not sorry?

fastsloth

Omg same! I’ll say huh? or what? and when they start to repeat themselves I’ll already answer or respond to what they originally said 😭 it’s just my brain processes it slow!

Mush4Brains

8mo

I find myself making light of these situations - not a great idea, by the way. But, often my explanation is, “I’m sorry. I really was listening to you. My brain just hasn’t figured out how to keep up.”

fastsloth

Haha exactlyyy!!! yes!!

meOOow

It’s either cutting them off when they start repeating it or just letting an awkward few second of silence hang in the air while you leave brain lags.

The moment I move my lips, my six year old says what?! 😅 I think she expects me to be screaming😂

pointyhorse

Every single time. Usually “what? Oh”

meOOow

My brain lags at work and I once looked at a customer and was like ‘what’ and it wasn’t until it left my mouth my brain caught up. Masking and being customer service friendly get hard when it hits the end of the day

martinipug

Yes! I didn’t realise that’s what that was! I always have to ask people to repeat themselves. So often my husband will say something and I’ll say “what”? and then when he starts repeating himself I’ll actually involuntarily tune him out and process what he originally said and then say “oh no wait, I got it”.

queenofskwrls

Anyone old enough to remember Max Headroom? My dad used to joke with me that instead of being 20 minutes into the future, my ears worked about 3 seconds into the past. Anyone else with the buffer experience auditory overstimulation regularly? If there’s more than one auditory input, my brain hears everything and processes none of it.