Out of sight, out of mind?

I can highly relate to your writing, and for me if they reach out when im in a bad period, i tend to unwilling ghosting them or i get back to it when im okay again, but then the guilt makes it impossible.

I can highly relate to your writing

My mother has bad intentions and verbally attacks my family. My siblings live away from her and that’s their favorite saying. I’ve never felt more alone.

Object permanence applies to people! It’s frustrating trying to explain to people this is a real thing we struggle with and not just being avoidant or inconsiderate.

I relate completely. I’m always feeling guilty for not being a better friend or family member. I tend to get stuck in my nuclear situation

Totally relate. I am a serial ghoster but completely unintentionally. I love these people dearly but either time goes by and I either forget to send them the messages when I think to or I forget to reply then and there. I have several friends that live only 20 minutes away who I seem to have these novel size conversations with, catching up on the missed time that only seem to go that far. The intent to then continue contact is always on mind but it just never works out that way. It would be so much easier to actually catch up and spend time with these friends as opposed to these back and fourth paragraphs, mind you if they don’t respond then and there it could be days or weeks for the conversation to continue… I don’t know what it is and it’s not life because I sometimes think to myself there’s things I can be doing and people I could be catching up with in my quiet time but the contact just isn’t there and I don’t know why. When I was younger, In school I was on top of all of that with my girlfriends. But now even Facebook is a failed attempt to keep the contact alive.

Totally relate. I am a serial ghoster but completely unintentionally. I love these people dearly but either time goes by and I either forget to send them the messages when I think to or I forget to reply then and there. I have several friends that live only 20 minutes away who I seem to have these novel size conversations with, catching up on the missed time that only seem to go that far. The intent to then continue contact is always on mind but it just never works out that way. It would be so much easier to actually catch up and spend time with these friends as opposed to these back and fourth paragraphs, mind you if they don’t respond then and there it could be days or weeks for the conversation to continue… I don’t know what it is and it’s not life because I sometimes think to myself there’s things I can be doing and people I could be catching up with in my quiet time but the contact just isn’t there and I don’t know why. When I was younger, In school I was on top of all of that with my girlfriends. But now even Facebook is a failed attempt to keep the contact alive.

Can totally relate to this and I give myself a really hard time about this too and take it really personally 😒😓

I am exactly the same…

My friends are so far away and its allot of money to go see them 😢.

I feel the same. Then I text them to see how they are after I go through my contacts and hope their not mad at me.

The older we get, the more focus we need to put into our own lives. Unless you are taking those friends into consideration when you make life/ career choices, then you've already chosen you over them you have to accept the life they are left with without you.

The older we get, the more focus we need to put into our own lives. Unless you are taking those friends into consideration when you make life/ career choices, then you've already chosen you over them you have to accept the life they are left with without you.

The older we get, the more focus we need to put into our own lives. Unless you are taking those friends into consideration when you make life/ career choices, then you've already chosen you over them you have to accept the life they are left with without you.

The older we get, the more focus we need to put into our own lives. Unless you are taking those friends into consideration when you make life/ career choices, then you've already chosen you over them you have to accept the life they are left with without you.

Schedule - I mean put an actual date and time on the calendar!

oh, yeah, now that you mention it… The only way I know of to conquer that is to schedule things with various people. A couple of my friends know this and schedule with me!

luckily there are a choosen few who know me good enough to keep hanging on despite my "unsocial" behaviour 🙂

jupp.. Thats also one of my biggest tasks to keep in touch with people. I always procrastinate and than eventually forget what i had in mind eg what had to tell/say to them in the first place, which than keeps me procrastinating further 'cause i feel kinda ashamed of myself 🤷🏻‍♂ quite a vicious circle which keeps me from building up a working personal network 🙈

Not just people. When I close something into a drawer, it doesn't exist anymore 'till it pops up in my mind two years later. And it could be anything from art project in progress to new/old clothing.

I totally relate and it kills me I lose so many friendships because the other person thinks that I don’t care or am uninterested in the friendship but it’s the exact opposite.

Yup! Happens all the time!

Big mood

Jeez, I catch myself on that way too often, end up being way to embarrassed to reach out and letting the whole situation spiral out of control 😬

Yes I’m always the one to say let’s meet up sometime but then weeks and months will go by…..I’ve decided to include those people in my to do lists and brain dumps

story of my life hate it so bad

STORY OF MY LIFE ! Hate it so bad !

yes i’m also, it’s really annoying