sleepysquirrel avatar
sleepysquirrel
7mo

Same

PMac2023 avatar
PMac2023
9mo

I hope you don’t mind me screen-shotting your comment, I’m racing to my amazon account now… Thank you wonderful human! 🙏🥰

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expensiveapp
9mo

It’s an escape for me, I find it to be soothing alone time

courtneeyy avatar
courtneeyy
9mo

1000% agree!

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QueenComer
9mo

In order to get in and out the shower and do what I need I had to get a basket with all my stuff in it so I don’t forget anything😂🙄 I use 3 different soap’s (face wash, body wash, vagisil) and keep cup with toothbrush and paste, intuition razer( no shaving cream needed), & Nivea in shower rinse off moisturizer. It takes me forever to get lotion on after shower. If this is not together my shower will take 90 mins 🙄😩

QueenComer avatar
QueenComer
9mo

I feel like they help me reset. I will put it off to get stuff done and then it turns around like if I shower then I can start over and then I will be productive. 😂

PMac2023 avatar
PMac2023
9mo

Absolutely, I dread it. I do it, but I really have to talk myself into it. I’ll have quick showers during the week and then a big, long, soaking bath on the weekend with epsom salts, champagne, and true crime shows on the ipad. THAT’S when I do my WHOLE self care routine of hair washing, shaving legs, body scrubs and face treatments etc. I’m in there for around 2 hours. 😂💞

jonxdavies avatar
jonxdavies
9mo

Totally agree with this. Ashamed to say but I have the same feeling with brushing my teeth, ever since I was a child

puddin14 avatar
puddin14
9mo

Same me too soo glad I’m not the only one.. 🙀

HolaMar avatar
HolaMar
9mo

Works great for me. I shower twice a day 😂 it’s like ugh I don’t want to to nice I feel refreshed.

Sara_x avatar
Sara_x
9mo

Yes… but when I’m showering I can stay there forever! It’s the energy and effort and mental battle to get up to shower for me 🥲

zonedout avatar
zonedout
9mo

same

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9mo

I wound up grabbing me a shower chair .. helps me better when I realize I can relax as well as shower

sew1027 avatar
sew1027
9mo

I can shower without an issue sometimes and others it’s like a mental marathon. Having to wash my hair is the worst.

kkchigbo avatar
kkchigbo
9mo

I realized that my shower being a dark hole in the wall. Got a light helps a lot but I still hate showering

volckerick avatar
volckerick
9mo

I take a sauna and a cold shower of 5”‘afterwards,?without this in the morning, my day is waaaay less productive

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9mo

It takes energy at first, but I always feel so much better afterwards

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sinsatiable
9mo

I noticed when I'm depressed the first thing I neglect is self care. Now with ADHD it makes skipping it easier to do. I had to make all these items a habit to check off in an app to hold myself accountable. Sigh

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Late?notAnymore
9mo

Me too but this year only and it’s first time since I was a teenager and that was a looong time ago lol

roisinanne avatar
roisinanne
9mo

I fully relate to this omg

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K8ty2610
9mo

Probably because ADHD shower thoughts are shower thoughts on steroids! Think about how much energy the requires your body. Your brain takes up 20% of your daily calorie intake. So it requires a lot of energy to function. And produce thoughts. So it makes sense why you feel drained after a shower.

jonxdavies avatar
jonxdavies
9mo

True!;;

meOOow avatar
meOOow
9mo

Having eczema as well makes the shower feel even more daunting as I can’t just have a lazy shower where I get out and get dressed immediately. If I don’t moisturise properly after every shower I will end up suffering for it

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courtneeyy
9mo

This is my life, it’s not just a shower, it’s the skin care routine you have to do every time, otherwise your skin goes to shit and that takes more effort to fix and you already don’t have the effort to begin with!! Argh

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meOOow
9mo

It’s so much energy. Feels like it takes up half my day on hair wash days even tho it doesn’t. Just takes up half my energy for the day lol

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9mo

Yep. I tend to stick it on the calendar to shower and then I forget. I get the kids showered and done b it forget me. I don’t like going to sleep with wet hair so I often put my hair up and jump in long enough to rinse the hot spots then once a week I try to get in and wash my hair. I don’t use hair products so no need to clean it all out. If I work out or do something outside that gets me sweaty that helps get me in to the shower.

aweit1001 avatar
aweit1001
9mo

I definitely struggle with this too!

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simpLee.me1327
9mo

Yes I love the water like swimming but taking showers also just seems so draining for everyday life.

noideagoblin2.0 avatar
noideagoblin2.0
9mo

Omg,yes! I procrastinate doing it for so long that it ends up being my bedtime, only then I go shower

Boo253 avatar
Boo253
9mo

💯

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9mo

Exactly!

jerichOG avatar
jerichOG
9mo

I think that my mental exercises to throw out impulse control against procrastination has helped. I hear or remember something, I go do it. It backfires when I have other priorities though.

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BananaCakeee
9mo

I also really don't like it, but I know I have to eventually. I tried to split it up; having an all out shower with all the fancy products and having quick showers where I only have to worry about body and hair and I can be out really quickly. This has helped me greatly, cause I just tended to postpone it, thinking I'd always have to go with the fancy shower (which eventually I had to, cause I kept postponing because of the idea. Beautiful loophole.)

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dozydrawers
9mo

Yes the same it’s like I intend to then forget to shower then put it off till later then the next day. Mad thing is I always feel better after one.

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kitana
9mo

If it’s a hair wash day I listen to a 30 minute podcast. If it’s a quick rinse I play a 4 minute song. If it’s a shower before a date aka full shave lol, then I play 2 songs or listen to a news podcast for 12 min which helps me play a game to beat the clock. The 4 minute shower saves a ton of water. This really helps when I think of it in song or podcast length.

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HopeHealer1
9mo

Yup

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SSKAATS83
9mo

I'm so glad that there are others who struggle with this. I feel like I'm the only one, and I can't talk to anyone about it because it's embarrassing to admit. But there are some really good suggestions here that I will definitely be trying.

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nimgirl🌸
9mo

I was just watching a video about this, and also about that ADHDers struggle with brushing our teeth, I love to be clean but it feels like too much 😣

endbookend avatar
endbookend
9mo

Yes, why are all the selfcare tasks so difficult?

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ib2green4u
9mo

Funny point...I feel like I dint have time. But the the things that I need to get done aren't getting done either.

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waytooserious26
9mo

What do you do when you can’t picture the amount of time a task will take ?

jerichOG avatar
jerichOG
9mo

That sounds like the “anxiety of time” issue I have as well. My recommendation, whenever you are confronted with a task (by others or by your remembering) and the anxiety toward time (and with all the tasks you got coming to mind all at once, which triggers the anxiety imo) The best next thing to do is pull out a clock or your phone and glance at the time, and then picture the amount of time that task will take, along with a couple others, and see if you meet your ‘deadline’ or not. 9 out of 10 times, I’d end up not only having enough time to do it, I’d end up having anywhere from half an hour to more than 2 hours to spare. But I never would’ve known that had I not re-anchored myself against the anxiety, and instead nothing would’ve been done.

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anxiousashley
9mo

By the time I’ve gotten the kids to a point where I have time to shower, I’m already exhausted. 😔 Always taking care of them, never taking care of myself- a work in progress.

PMac2023 avatar
PMac2023
9mo

100 percent feel you on this one… By the time I’ve got everyone else sorted, I don’t have the mental energy to sort out myself. I plonk on the couch like a sack of potatoes. 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

foggyartist avatar
foggyartist
9mo

Totally

ashred207 avatar
ashred207
9mo

I find ive been struggling with the hygiene and self care. Getting into the shower feels like climbing a mountain at times. But I do feel better afterwards

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nickirinaj1
9mo

Yehh low key when ya hit with a side of OCD bit of depression I can relate! But all in all it made ya feel better in the end!

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eryn_ciao
9mo

si!

Deinz08 avatar
Deinz08
9mo

Yup..

chiquitabananna avatar
chiquitabananna
9mo

Yes I do!

Yryan avatar
Yryan
9mo

Sometimes.. I mean, I never regret grabbing the shower anyway but some days it's far more draining than others..

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9mo

Man, I’m reading the comments and practically in tears knowing so many others are experiencing exactly what I am. It’s like some of you are saying the exact things I’m thinking. And some of the solutions shared are amazing, I’m already looking up some things mentioned!

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9mo

Yes. That’s literally on my Numo to do list today. 😩

goddess727 avatar
goddess727
9mo

Yes!!

adhdartist2023 avatar
adhdartist2023
9mo

There are always options. If showering is a sticking point, then here are some rinseless and waterless products you could try… Brands include Rinseless, Nurture, Drench, Medicosa, and CleanLife. It's apparently quite the industry! Holy crap. There's even a waterless, rinseless shower cap from Nuture (Amazon) that you put on before bed and it cleans your hair while you sleep!!! Medcosa No Water Body Wash: This is a rinse-free, waterless body wash that comes in a foam form. It is designed for adults and elderly care and can be wiped away with a towel CleanLife No-Rinse® products: These are waterless, rinse-free personal care products that are ideal for seniors, adults, and children. They are paraben and alcohol-free and come in a variety of formulas, including body wash, bathing wipes, and peri-wash No-Rinse Body Wash: This is a rinse-free body wash that comes in a liquid form. It is alcohol-free and leaves skin clean, moisturized, and odor-free Waterless and Rinse-Free Shampoo For People: This is a rinse-free, waterless shampoo that comes in a foam or liquid form. It is designed for adults, elderly care, and people with disabilities. It can be wiped away with a towel and leaves hair refreshed and clean and dissolves sweat, salt, and grime, all without rinsing. It is ideal for camping trips, hospital stays, and people with disabilities Has anyone tried these?

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adhdartist2023
9mo

I also stumbled on two awesome hair products that you leave in your hair and let it dry naturally. I hate styling my hair and that was enough to stop me from wanting to wash it at all. Bumble and Bumble make a product called Un-blow dry or something like that and Hairstory makes a The Balm. Both of them are designed to be put in your hair when it’s wet and just left. I’ve struggled with having fine hair that frizzes and for whatever reason these two products save the day for me.

Jeeps52 avatar
Jeeps52
9mo

Yes, but I'm alway looking for more. Thanks for the suggestions. They really help when my back acts up.

adhdartist2023 avatar
adhdartist2023
9mo

No worries! I'm a natural investigator and an enthusiastic curator, so I love finding solutions and opportunities and work around or just new ways of thinking about things. It's one of my ADHD superpowers .

alla.minium avatar
alla.minium
9mo

I hate showers sm, 1 shower takes me like an hour to do

Mzmoonshine avatar
Mzmoonshine
9mo

Also try to imagine and FEEL how good you feel in that moment when you’re all done and clean and relaxed 😌🥰😌😌

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Mzmoonshine
9mo

Often. Especially likely if you ( like myself) also have fibromyalgia. Have you tried breaking the whole task right down? - I’ve just joined this app today but see that it can help you to do this automatically with many tasks! - it’s called ‘splitting’. Love this feature! So for example , you can try just walking to the shower, or just switching it on and watching the water trickle for a minute. - Tell yourself you don’t have to take the shower - you’re just gonna get your towel ready. No pressure. Just your towel. Then, if you feel like it, get your products or pyjamas ready (or whatever would normally be the next smallest step you would take) If it takes you 3 days to actually do the steps, it doesn’t matter. It’s better than not showering for 10 because you couldn’t make a single, first step towards it. ❤️

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9mo

I do this all the time but that fact that you actually said "if it takes 3 days..." really impacted me and I will deffinatly remember this comment for the future! Thank you!! 😊 xx

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SSKAATS83
9mo

I love this idea. Never would have thought to do this. Thank you so much.

Heatherfly avatar
Heatherfly
9mo

I have nothing to do with anything that takes a lot of time showers are quick

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Kwentim
9mo

Cold/cool showers in the summer makes it easier

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Miss Beelzebub
9mo

Yep 😔🫤

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aj.teee
9mo

I find the jet can be too hard on my skin ( I have fibromyalgia too), so a gentle trickle of water out the shower is enough for me which doesn't tired me out x

Yryan avatar
Yryan
9mo

Yeah, having a showerhead you can adjust is really nice for that too.. I don't know about everyone else but I have sensory issues, and some days I like the stronger jet, and some days I set it to setting that almost ends up feeling like a blanket, with water just running over my skin.. and that's actually really nice, and enough to coax me into the shower on bad days too lol

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AlyssaBeast
9mo

Every day 😪

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KaotikBeeUtee
9mo

I don't remember where I heard it exactly but it was said "If u do one thing when ur anything but happy make having a shower that one thing u do"

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faustpeweater
9mo

you know, sometimes a shower really concentrates me after a walk with the dog, and after it a cup of coffee - it really works, but if it is an EVENING shower (with all the procedures 😁) then the desire to delay this process is critical

brainsmoosh avatar
brainsmoosh
9mo

Yes. I don’t do it daily or even weekly sometimes as a result. 🥺

Yryan avatar
Yryan
9mo

For me it's mostly a sensory thing. Sometimes I have issues with the sound (it's loud), and I change the setting on the shower head a lot. I'm just glad we have one that adjusts xD Do you have the same issues?

ADHD-Cha avatar
ADHD-Cha
9mo

Overcome to shower = the worst Showering = the best Leaving the shower = the worst Evey time 😅

katasker avatar
katasker
9mo

I have way too much hair. That’s my problem!! BUT I DONT WANT TO CUT IT

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anxiousashley
9mo

Literally makes a simple shower take SO LONG, and thinking of the effort it takes to care for all my hair after the shower.. shew.

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9mo

100%! I love how I feel after a shower, but making myself do it is one of the biggest struggles.

cjzoinks avatar
cjzoinks
9mo

Oh gosh yes - and I feel quite out of it still. My hair takes ages to dry as well so I have to take that into consideration, and it’s a hard task all round for me

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jacky_boi
9mo

I find it washes off a lot of my stress during the day, it’s cleansing to go home and wash the emotions of the day off, thinking of it as that might help you enjoy them more? 😊🫶🏼 I saw someone else recommend putting plants in the shower I love doing that too!

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adhdartist2023
9mo

How can you change your shower so that it's as awesome as possible? I hated showering until I started adding things like: - a shower speaker - 3 suction cup holders for good-looking faux succulents - a cheap but sassy Amazon dupe for those hotel or spa showers where the body wash/shampoo/conditioner is in a groovy divided container that is stuck to the shower wall - and a scalp massage from Hairstory because my brain gets freaking tired Start small, but make it an awesome space for YOU. Then get some towels that feel good so you can dry off happily. There are soft ones at every price point. You're f@cking worth it! And that's why I don't mind taking showers.

adhdartist2023 avatar
adhdartist2023
9mo

Where can I find one??? Sounds awesome.

Yryan avatar
Yryan
9mo

I have a ball-light meant for pools, I love using it instead of the regular lights.. maybe it might be a nice addition to your list ;)

aorton1981 avatar
aorton1981
9mo

Yes! I avoid it on the weekends. But I do feel gross when I don’t. I know how you feel!

adhdreamy avatar
adhdreamy
9mo

this is so hard for me. i always have to gather so much energy to shower, and sometimes i procrastinate it a lot. this makes me feel really guilty. i really need to find a way to make this easier D:

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nightengale27
9mo

Yes! I struggle so hard to get started

steff_bn avatar
steff_bn
9mo

Oooh i thought i’m the only one! I’m tired of entering the shower. After i showered, i feel awesome, haha.

breebaxe avatar
breebaxe
9mo

Yes! it’s feel’s agonizing. But i feel sooo amazing once I do it. I’ll literally go days without showering because it feels so hard to just do it.

Chizuru94 avatar
Chizuru94
9mo

100% T-T

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GoodVibes777
9mo

Showers are an inbetweener because times I’ll wake up and be up and about and other times it makes me tired asf

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Hayleythemess
9mo

I switched to baths, honestly game changer for me. No more constant overhead reaching rinsing and detangling. No more freaking out picking stray hairs off my back, no more having parts of my body cold and others hot. Also I can make it warmer and start it as a nice soak for my sore body. I wear my hair up for body only days. I love it. I used to hattttttteeeeeeeee hygiene days. Now i dont

Kalechip avatar
Kalechip
9mo

💯 I like to shower with the light off because it saves me from being too overstimulated as well

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anxiousashley
9mo

Yes! The dark is so calming.

adhdreamy avatar
adhdreamy
9mo

omg i love showering with the lights off. it helps a lot for me!!

breebaxe avatar
breebaxe
9mo

me too!

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kabatty5404
9mo

I never even thought that this could be related to my adhd... I hate to admit it, but I had to do the cute shower bench trick, like a previous poster said, for those days when I just can't switch gears...

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t3chnopol1c3
9mo

Absolutely. With a boiler, it’s difficult to get washed my head properly while having a proper shower. I always have troubles with this and spend a lot of time procrastinating instead of getting my ass up and having that shower…

addfox avatar
addfox
9mo

I struggle too. My daughter even more so. The sensory input is off the chart for one thing. Then if you have any chronic illness, the physicality can be daunting or even impossible. Having a shower chair and a hand held shower head does help somewhat. I also tend to not shower and wash my hair at the same time. Even if you find you need to do both every day, maybe try doing one in the morning and the other I’m the evening?

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distractedqueen
10mo

i feel like it takes me so much time to actually get in the shower. i love feeling clean and i enjoy showering once i’m in there but willing myself to go for a shower is difficult

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dabreeze9669
10mo

I agree with this so hard

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chunky monkey
10mo

A bath just seems so much easier to me. I run the bath and distract myself with something else. Can't relax in a bath tho I'm only in long enough to wash. Feels like I'm wasting time lying in dirty water 🤣

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9mo

That's why I soak then wash.. get out right after

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ImaGroovychick
10mo

Yes!!!!!

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lamentedsorcer
10mo

I like to take them at night so I'm clean and sleepy

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adhdartist2023
10mo

I bought a shower speaker and I play my favorite playlist and sing badly but loud and with happiness. I also order my fav coconut body wash and a six pack of diff color loofa things on subscription from Amazon. It helps a lot!

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daydreamer-
10mo

This all makes sense since apparently movements between states I.e. transitions is something many people with add / adhd find challenging ! 😮‍💨

joey99 avatar
joey99
10mo

agreed! for me it stems from having exzema and showers being fairly painful in my experience so it takes like ALL of my energy to shower

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10mo

Totally relate. Such an ordeal.

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ForgetfulFarmer
10mo

I feel the same way. It feels like 12 different tasks rather than just one main task and feels exhausting for me when most people find it relaxing.

miimixo avatar
miimixo
10mo

It just feels so draining and the transition from cold, hot, cold and dry is hard. Really embarrassed to admit that to be honest.

addfox avatar
addfox
9mo

No I get that! The sensory changes - temp, dry/wet/damp/dry, different scents, texture of whatever you wash with, noise of water/fan/heater, humidity after…. The whole process is anti-sensory sensitive if you ask me.

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