New ADHD mom

Baby is 6 months old and between returning to work, pumping, household tasks, trying to remember to eat and shower and staying in the moment with her, I’m having such a hard time staying on top of tasks. It’s put so much stress on my marriage and people keep telling me to lower my standards/expectations… but hubs is a perfectionist. Just wondering if anyone else is struggling with this transition or has any tips. 🙏🏼 Does it eventually get better?