Does anybody else feel the need to over explain themselves ?

Always.. I see the confusion and boredom in people’s eyes when I do (which makes me feel like I’m hiding behind my adhd) and I still feel like there’s a ticking bomb inside me when somebody else’s over explaining themselves (which makes me feel like I’m a terrible person)

Yes - I feel like over explaining / over sharing my adhd when I flake on something involving someone else. But I also don’t want to sound like I’m not taking responsibility.

Yes when people asks questions about my intentions on my own stuffs

Phewf! I’m relieved to hear that it’s not just me! I will over explain and then worry that my over explaining will come across as disingenuous so I will try explaining that I realize I’ve over explained and the hole just gets deeper and deeper… Let’s just hope that I never get falsely accused of something, because I’m sure I will seem seem suspicious 🙃.

My texts are 3 times longer then everyone elses

Ggg

Hey

Hello

Most of the time!

All the time! It’s so frustrating and even embarrassing.

Hello

Hi

Hello

And when writing, I use parentheses, sometimes within parentheses

Im starting to think that we all feel that way 🤷🏼‍♀️ I used to think it was just me, & like…the way MY BRAIN worked, but it’s a LARGE possibility that a lot of us feel that way!

Yes, I do all the time!

Good Lord this will be the death of me haha I do this exact same thing.

Yes and practicing in my head over and over what to say.

All the time, even when I know I don’t need to I have too

Always! Bore people to death

Ya this vicious cycle of feeling the need to explain so they understand but really they don’t need to have an explanation….my no can just be no, or I can’t, not today or whatever

Over sharing for sure. But I have learned that shame is created by not sharing. Unfortunately not everyone knows that.

I wish people would say got it. So I Could stop. What’s worse is that because they are afraid that it is going to happen again, they sometimes cut me off before I have made all of my points.

Yeah, *so* much.. but it's also because I'm kind of bad at reading social cues, so I kind of yoyo between Mr obvious and Dr oblivious.. xD

Yeah about everything because my head thinks if I don't keep trying to explain it then the person doesn't understand what I'm saying.... or I tell myself I didn't go into enough detail when I probably should have just stopped after the 1st or 2nd time. 😩

All of the time, really bad for it 😊

I have major problem being organised at work and then I forget my profession due to panic . I’m a hairdresser … simple stuff like … the steps of the job … how to section the hair properly. In which order my foils go … then I go to get something forget what I want to get … walk right past it , and then go back and get it … and then have to explain to my client what on earth is with me … 😩😂. I’m laughing… buts it’s a real problem .

Every day … 🥲

Everyday, all day. I don’t think my brain and what comes out of my mouth are in-sync. With that in mind, I over explain to compensate, but it ends up being way more confusing than it should have been.

ALL. THE. FREAKING. TIME!!

I over-explain in an attempt to ensure the person I am talking to understands what I am saying and meaning, but always ends up making it 100% more confusing for everyone. Love my ADHD.

I keep saying I'll stop

Constantly, especially at work!

For me, it’s one extreme or the other. I either forget to explain details entirely or over explain to the point that my husband has to tell me to stop and breath.

I HAVE to try to make everything make sense to someone else in the exact way it clicked to me.

Me, always

I’m the queen of over explaining and over sharing 👑

Always!

All the time 🫠

Yes, constantly. I am currently written of sick d/t burnout. I am battling hard bot to talk to my colleagues.

Always, here let me explain….

Always

I’d put it on my tombstone, but the text would also probably be an over-explanation.

Absolutely

All the time

Yes all the time

Yes, because in my mind, I'm constantly editing what I just said because I just thought of a better way to put it 

Yes often this make me think better sometimes because I over explain and think and the same time I don’t know if it makes sense

YES!

Always!! And then I feel stupid afterwards

All the time

Always! 😔

Always and also the need to unnecessarily apologize too much

Always and trying so hard to control this trait

My friends have a chat thread with me on it and one I’m not on. When I’m in a mood they just shift to the other thread. It kinda hurts. But I also kinda get it

I use way more words than I need to. Here let me explain. 😝

i type a lot and then take away most or just delete the first brain dump when sending text these days and in person I feel frozen

Yes all the time mainly to prove myself since I had to since I was a kid, and also to be understood, which most don’t understand me, they think they do.🥺

Literally all the time. I feel like it’s partially to prove my self and partially because there’s no filter and these are just the thoughts rushing through my head. I don’t know how to stop it though 🥲

Yes all the time.

Yasssss it’s annoying

All the time….and lately I hate that I do that. Because I feel like I’m annoying people or they lose track of what I’m saying.

Yup! It’s the RSD that comes with ADHD.

For sure 😅 I wonder why I do that all the time

Yes, but I’m getting better at not doing it!

all the time and i hate it

Yes!

Constantly 😭

All the time

Constantly, even to strangers

Yessssss

All the time, my partner gets angry with me sometimes.

All the time

All the damn time!

yeah very often, people frequently misjudged us. they have a lot of prejudices and they criticize us all the time. why? because we re not ordinary and dont act like non neurodivergent people!

Yes!

Omg 😱 over and over, energy zappers!!

All the time, it’s exhausting and remembering to/learning to edit it down is so difficult

Yes. Some people / friends make me feel sometimes that I’m approaching my life and relationships in a wrong way but actually I don’t..but somehow I feel guilty because I really doubt my memory skills and understanding of the world.. this is actually wrong .. cause I shouldn’t doubt myself and my intention if I don’t really believe the others have the right to do so. I lack on strength when I assume that other normo people are more reliable of myself.

You said what you said!! Period

Yea I feel misunderstood sometimes so I overexplain myself to avoid that. I’ve started to ask if people understand what I mean to stop but also I’m reassured by the ppl around that I what I says was valid enough not to have to explain

Yeah sometimes

Yes! Vulnerability can be a strength but when I over share in attempt to help others better understand me I can actually end up feeling really exposed and self-conscious. It's taken time and practice but I feel that I've learned some great verbal boundaries...like not sharing specific details and only what I need to to get my point across.

Sometimes

All the time 😂

Yes!!! It's so exhausting!

I can’t help it

ALL THE TIME

Oh yes. To the point where I don’t remember my point 😅

Yes all the fricking time

All the time

All the time

yep

Constantly

I mean yeah, I do constantly, and I don’t know why either

Yes, I try to control and I’m successful most of the time.

All the time

Always

I enter an infinite loop 🔁 assuming they haven’t fully understood me 😝 and end up exhausted!

When I teach I run into this issue. I have to constantly remind myself to edit and simplify.