Thx sooo much 4 writin a comment on my post!! 🤩 I got super super happy when I red that u think my dad is an incredible person, coz I think so too. Like sure he can be grumpy an moody somtimes an if one of us is tired we still fight about dum stuff, but now fights are kinda rare an peace (lol) is the normal thing. And that feels sooo nice! Even if it sounds cringe I feel like Mowgli from the Junglebook – first I just wanted 2 argue about evrything, but now I got a dad I actually want 2 “teach me all he knows” – like my Baloo 🥰☺️🤪 (ok Baloo is kinda dum but my dad is not, u get it 👻👻👻).
I’ve got so obedient that this summer dad told me I shud not feel forced 2 just accept everything. Even tho he likes that I dont fight about bed time or havin super little screen time – like the least of anyone I know 😅. Dad says I’m a better me when I’m not stuck on phone or PC, so he got those progs on all my devices an I can only do fun stuff 1 hour a day, 6 days a week. One day – Sunday – I can only call an check the weather 😩. No sms, no Snap, nothing! It sucks but also I kinda feel better when he decides. Sometimes I nag him 2 change it an then I get scared after, like what if he says yes?? I know I’ll just play all the time, coz I cant control it. Its like drugs – addicts know its bad but cant stop. Thats me with screens – they own me. I told dad that, that I cant control it. So he changed from 3h schooldays + free weekend to 1h Mon–sat + no screens Sunday, plus he added an app 2 see evrything I do. At first I was sooo mad, I screamed he was stealing my life an no right 2 spy my privacy. He was calm but sad, he said he would explain but only when I calmed down.
I was mad almost 2 weeks, but second Sunday I just got sad. I missed games so much I cried. Regretted telling him it was like drugs – I didnt mean he shud take it away, I just wanted a hug an good advice. I got so sad I cudnt be mad anymore. I just wanted him 2 hold me. He noticed an said: “Come! We take the boat today! No smartphones, only old emergency phone, an we buy tons of candy.” I went but still sad. We went 2 a lonely island, it was sunny, we swam like when I was little. After a while I laughed again. When we ate he asked if I wanted him 2 explain the rules, an I said yes. He told me his best friend became addict, an he saw the same in me with games. When I admitted it, he decided not 2 let me become like his friend. He missed his friend, who is dead now. He said he even asked a psychologist before taking away my “drug”. He was afraid I’d hate him. Then he said he will never give up this – other stuff we can negotiat, but never screens. He asked if I wud hate him.
I just cried. I cant hate him. He cried too, put me on his lap like when I was smol, hugged me tight. We sat long on the beach. Finally I said somethin like: “Dad, I’ll get mad evry time I miss my games, but I kno ur doing it 4 me. I probbly regret sayin this, but I want u 2 keep talkin 2 the psychologist an decide whats best, not care if I get mad. I dont wanna be like ur friend. Screens really are drugs 4 me. I cant control it. So u decide. I wont be mad u check what I do coz I kno I cant be trusted with PC or phone. I lied 4 years. In a way it feels relief – like u took away the responsbility. But I’ll blame u when I explain 2 my friends why I cant game. I’ll say dad is stupid, otherwise they think I’m weird.”
Do u kno what dad said? He hugged me an said he’d be happy if I blame him, so my friends think he’s stupid not me. He said thats what parents are 4 – 2 take the blame. He called it honor 2 be the dumb one so I dont hav 2 be. He said even if I hated him it wudnt matter – rules stay. He does it 4 me so I dont hav 2 be the adult takin responsbilty 4 my “addiction.”
So yeah, maybe u get why I wanna be like him? Even if he is the strictest dad I kno, he’s almost never strict 4 himself – he doesnt even like it, but he does it coz it’s his duty.
If I ever be a dad, I wanna be like him.
Wow I just wrote an essay! Maybe I shud print it an giv it 2 my English teacher 😜. I never wanna write essays, I write as little as possible not 2 fail. She probbly doesnt think I can write this much! 😜😜😜 I had not much 2 do coz my hour screen time was over long ago an it’s raining. But dad found Numo 4 me an said it was safe an maybe good, so its exempt 🤠😜👻.
Weird I write this 2 a mom with kids my age when I dont even kno u 😬🤗😎😜. But it felt sooo nice in my belly when u wrote kind about my dad. Risk of being lamest 13 yo boy in world, but thx 4 writing it. Many adults here think my dad is weird with rules, not giving me freedom like other 13yos. Dad says its Sweden thats weird – parents let kids have freedom they shudnt. He says freedom when u cant handle it isnt freedom but prison. Many kids live in those prisons – they can do anything but look stressed an unhappy, some get sick from overweight, stress, stomach, back probs. Dad always says so many kids are overweight that its normal now. Skinny kids are seen as strange. I got teased for being skinny, ribs showing, but dad showed me doctors charts. Then doc said my weight is exactly right, not too low. He said dad was right, many kids eat too much an dont move, so overweight is new normal. Healthy kids look skinny but they’re best weight.
Now dad is calling me 2 put phone away an help clean storage.
Have a superduper weekend wherever u live! And thx again 4 ur kind words! 😍😍😍😍
