Thoughts.

My mind is spinning. I want my husband to say we can do these things I want to do but he doesn't want to. I feel like sometimes he has the final say in them.

lizzyczubak

12mo

I personally would keep bringing them up until he agrees, but I’m just petty like that. Also tell him that you won’t stop bringing it up until it happens

BABSBT

12mo

So with you on this one. I get all shame at what I’m not doing well house and finance wise. But the things I find important, like quality time together, get pushed off because the “important” stuff isn’t done.

moajune

12mo

What for example? Changes around your home? Trip ideas to spend days off? Products you wish to buy?

BABSBT

11mo

Well, we finally split up. He no longer lives here but I still somehow, get the shame storm

moajune

12mo

Oh.. that’s understandable! Hm.. you need to find a way to make him understand your needs, you need to find a way to make the living situation enjoyable for the both of you, speaking of location.. maybe each of you can make a list of things that are important to you and next to it, the reason why/or prioritized/weighted by importance - then you might be able to find what is important to the both of you!

cpcoyoteflowers

12mo

Things like moving closer to my family. We've lived for most of our relationship close to his family, where he grew up. I just want a change.

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