Your husband is being psychologically abusive to you. Things like this are hard to know, if, you've not like in to them. It's literally a form of domestic violence.  Especially, since, (if you've been diagnosed), you are, by law, in a group of protected citizens. There are legal ramifications for domestic violence/abuse, in the USA. TAKE IT SERIOUSLY.  This kind of behavior escalates, and is "crazy-making" techniques of narcissists, using gaslighting to illicit a response.  You need to protect yourself from this kind of abuse. Statistics show that where there is one form of abuse, there's almost always other forms present.  It's not you that needs help.  He needs a reality check, in my opinion.

My spouse isn’t letting me be a Let me become an equal partner. It’s just getting worse to where I’ve found hidden things. Please help. What do I do? 

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