How Do You Stay Organized?

Wow! Congratulations!! That must feel such a relief!

Once I have managed to clean and organize it magically stays that way. Only because of being diagnosed with ADD and meds. Plus I don’t want the work that I put into decluttering and organizing to start all over again. Unfortunately I still have a long way to go.

Same

I’m sorry to hear that. Start small that is the way I started declutterring.

Can you get a medical certificate to ask them to take it into consideration?

I hear you loud and clear. I’m in the same boat sister. 😞

Same

I was driving my parents crazy because I of the overbuying cycle. I blamed myself for not being responsible with my finances. (Irresponsibility it’s not an adhd symptom). Transparent organisers work better for me because it’s visible and I don’t forget. I tried to organise once, didn’t work, twice lost count. Then I saw organisation hacks that worked for me. My parents saw me trying, very hard. That counted.

My husband feels the same way when it comes to my same habit he constantly has to remind me never to buy any kind of basket or storage tote etc because they all end up becoming catch alls for all the random stuff my ADHD has not allowed me to get rid of or throw away or my little Nickel and dime dollar here dollar there impulse buys......I'm horrible with any kind of serious clearance sales in stores etc

Me too. I feel you. I got in a relationship which I swore never to do again! This time it was physically abusive. I just give too much of my own time away and my life backs up on me. Now I’m in crisis again nothing is functioning and I feel like the world is closing in on me. I’m hyperactive type adhd. How bout you?

Same!!! It also stops me from chatting to my kids (grown ups) and wasting time! But they may have to put up with my singing if annoying songs (like they might be giants).

It does feel like a lot of n.typicals, or even n.diverse who are at different spectrums than us, figure that once we are diagnosed and are being medicated, we should instantly be well and finally acting as the person that THEY want us to be… it’s never that simple. And it hurts to be on the receiving end of that shame and guilt for being different than them… for being ourselves. Hugs to you, to both of you, and anyone else reading this! 🫂 Divorce, or being put out on our own, doesn’t mean it’s the end - it just means it’s our next chapter and our next chance to be who we want to truly be. Don’t ever give up on being the person you want to be! 👑

Hey. Sometimes you need to aknowledge that at least you aren’t in the corner rocking back and forth muttering “mercy”. It’s been known to happen! But I’m also autistic! I just got assaulted by my partner at Xmas and now think I’m pregnant also. That would be child number 6! At 46! When my youngest is 12. Oldest 30. So yeah. Sometimes life sux. But honey, at least you aren’t diagnosed AND medicated! I’m diagnosed as of last year. Not yet medicated need to find a psychiatrist. Got treated at psychologists office. They can’t prescribe! Damnit.

How do you get the pile to stand up? My piles are so high…. Do you put them in a box to hold them vertical?

Create one list for the big ideas, and another list(s) for each idea to break them down. So essentially, you will end up with more to-do lists, but you will have one primary list for you to choose your next task from. It doesn’t even have to be in order of importance; you can number it like that later if you’d like to, though, but do remember that life is life, and more important things will come up before you can make it through your full list(s). This is where the Eisenhower Matrix could help you out, with prioritizing.

I am the same way. My therapist told me to use only one list. Lol.

I was taught a technique, used it for a while, then stopped, procrastination overwhelm. However this technique is good if you’re consistent. Make an electronic list in say One Note or a simple word doc is fine too. Use headings to create time based sections to allocate task to: - Top 3 priorities to do now - today - this week - this month -this quarter -this year -someday - brain dump The idea is you put everything in either a time slot of if that’s too difficult put it in the brain dump Then you shuffle things up the list as the top 3 are done. As things change their urgency or importance with life’s demands, you can reallocate to a different time slot, so something you thought you would do this quarter when you got around to it can jump sections straight up to today if it suddenly becomes urgent and/or important. Ideally use a list to keep track of tasks done to help sense of progress. I’ve inspired myself through writing this just now and am wondering if I could somehow adapt this app to this. If not I’ll go back to One Note. If there’s a section where I can upload a word doc template I’m happy to do that. I’m day 1 Newbie here so haven’t explored the app fully.