I am very often late, but not so much…mostly like 5 minutes. So I started thinking about my environment, do other people arrive 5 minutes late too?
Yes, they do.
Do they act like they are anxious about it and over-explain the causes every single time?
No they don’t.
So I realised I made it a bigger problem by taking up a lot of space over explaining and drawing a lot attention to it…. So now I only explain myself if I’m noticeably late. And I only apologise if it causes a real problem.
I enter, I say good morning in a friendly manner, and I make sure to start working immediately when I arrive and I always stay 5 min extra at the end of the day if needed.

I have stopped treating myself as if I am a problem.

And if I end up in a period of being more late, like at least 15 min very often, then I take it as a warning sign that I have to reduce my stress, tidy up and declutter at home, try to get more sleep or maybe there is something important that I am procrastinating…? and therefore I am unconsciously but constantly unfocused and can’t cope with daily routines nor find my deodorant… but I don’t start punishing myself anymore thinking I suck because I can’t be on time. I just need to be kind with myself and try to get to the source of why I’m not functioning right now.

How do you deal with it? Do you also feel ashamed and still can't make it? Do you also struggle to get to work on time? -> Those who are never late, what tips do you have?

NUMO ADHDNUMO
ADHD

Are you almost always late for appointments too?