Self harm

Perhaps a bit more hands on approach: Make a list of things you Think needs to be done to make the Home work. Make it a checklist. Hand the list over to your husband and let him know you known he struggles with pain, but you are heading into a State of being that Will ultimately break you. Let him Pick his task from that list. Most men wants to be a fixer of problems, but have a hard time figuring out what needs to be done. Hope it helps, you will find your path someday 🙌

Best way to survive adhd/audh is to take life day by day, hour by hour, and try to use sense of humor as a tool to help navigate through some of the tough times. Praying for you and your family

Big hugs to you, I just hope you can feel the love from this group xx

Send my love and support please don’t halm yourself you are so loved

I am so sorry you are going through all of this. Families are not meant to be on the shoulders of one person. Talk to your spouse about doing whatever he can to help you. When it comes to arthritis the saying is “motion is lotion”. The movement may hurt but not moving at all makes it worse when they do have to move. If the children are of age they can be responsible for some of their tasks like waking up with an alarm and packing their lunches. Families are teams not solo events. My final suggestion would be to get a counselor or therapist. There is no shame in talking to a licensed person who can help you process these feelings. Sometimes you just need to talk with someone who is trained in helping people in this. Sending love.

This is to much work for one person, FOR SURE. Be honest with your family. The longer current situation goes on the less you can cope. So show yourself some compassion, you are doing A TONN of work for everyone so pat tourself on the back and take time to take care of yourself.

Remember, no matter how bad or difficult your life gets, it can always get better. There are people out there who could not stand to live with out you. You matter to this world. You are important to more people than you realize.

I would suggest having some boundaries with your family. I absolutely understand feeling like you must do everything bc nobody else can/will. However I have found in my own life that if I develop boundaries and say I’m sorry but I can no longer do that for you anymore, you would be surprised how many people suddenly are able to take on the responsibility themselves when you politely lay out the boundary that you are no longer going to be doing XY or Z for them anymore. Even the people who love us and we love back can take advantage of us doing everything for them. Do what you absolutely have to do, then quit doing some of the other things and express your expectations of others to contribute more. You literally can not do everything. Make peace with than then give your family the option of the other things either being done by them or not being done at all and see if they step up. It can be a healthy growing experience for everyone involved.

I tried to comment but not sure if it went through so sorry if this is a repeat. You have a lot more on your plate than most people so you’re doing incredibly managing even half of what you have to. Is there any way you can carve out an hour each day for some self care activities?

Ooh gosh what a tough situation 💕 I see you and I hear you.. life must feel like it’s going a hundred miles an hour but you’re still never getting anywhere.. I truly wish that I had some advice or something.. I suppose if I were to write a post like yours, what would you say to me? 😊