I hate being me, advices needed

I genuinely think that I'm such a bad person to my most important people, and it's killing me when I keep hurting their feelings without even realizing it or doing it intentionally. I keep accidentally ghosting my mom on Instagram and I keep looking at the messages and seeing what she sent and eventually forgot to reply, it's like jumping into a rabbit hole and then coming out to forget why I jumped in the first place, and I know she'd trying so hard to support me but I always keep doing this and somehow still feel frustrated for not being understood when I struggle to actually look at what I'm doing isn't really doing any better ☹️ I'd appreciate it if you have any tips on how to stop hurting other people without realizing, I want this to stop happening

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pizzettatime

Onestamente non capisco perché tua madre debba sentirsi ferita dalla tua mancata risposta a dei video di Instagram. Basta spiegarle il fatto che instagram è un buco nero per la tua attenzione, che il video che lei ha mandato lo hai visto, ma che sarebbe meglio parlarne dal vivo o in chiamata, perché ti dimentichi di risponderle lì per lì. Io ho spiegato a mia madre che non apro spesso i suoi link di Facebook perché appunto poi rimango chiusa lì e le ho chiesto se me ne può parlare a voce. Prova anche tu!

elora.brgc

14h

Je trouve que ce qui est dis est vraiment génial, qu’il décrit beaucoup ce que je pense mais j’aimerais rajouter quelque chose : discute avec ces personnes de ton problème dans le sens dis leur que quand tu blesses les autres tu ne le vois pas, mais fais le à un moment calme et posé. Discutes en avec eux et ils comprendront déjà mieux les situations passées et celles à venir. Tu peux leur demander de te prévenir quand quelque chose ne leur a pas plu pour en discuter avec toi et que tu comprennes. De ce fait, ton cerveau va imprégner tout seul le mécanisme et tu ne vas plus commettre de fautes. J’espère que mon conseil va t’aider !!

emmB@

17h

Hi, I’m sure you’re not a bad person for your loved ones ! Proof : you worry for them and about the way you treat them. That being said, I see what you mean ; maybe, just explaining to your mom how it is for you would help her not getting hurt ? If she understands that it’s not your intention to ghost her, and that you still care very much about her even if your messages are infrequent, it would probably reassure her ; don’t you think ?

Lucy 🧡💛🤍🩵💙

18h

What you’re struggling with seems to be object permanence (forgetting sth exists if you’re not confronted with it) and a lot of people with ADHD struggle with that, me included. It helps me to put reminders somewhere I often pass by just as a placeholder to keep the thing in mind. Remember it’s not your fault, you don’t love these people any less and just to put things into perspective for you and them: I regularly forget to eat so how important sth is has nothing to do with it

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