How to deal with “being to much”?

‘If I’m too much find someone who is less’ 😉

I isolated. Don't have anyone with ADHD around. I am too much for my ex that I still live Which I'm grateful for and the worst thing was seeing him rolling his eyes when was being myself. Just can't wait to move out (I have nowhere to go) AlSo he expects us to be friends and do all our plans together

Just embrace it 🤩 don’t worry about other people’s opinions, I’ve done this so many years. Nowadays idgaf 🤪 just be yourself, because you are perfect the way you are !! Cheers 🥂

Try to make more auDHD friends, as we understand on a personal level and are probably more honest and open. Additionally, IFS (internal family systems) therapy could benefit you. As a ND person, it’s miles better than CBT therapy and doesn’t make you feel ashamed of yourself :) it’s about accepting all parts of yourself and working out how you can support them healthily!

EMBRACE IT! Always be your authentic self babe. Never change for anyone else’s benefit hats just doing yourself an injustice. If they’re overwhelmed by you being yourself they’re boring fucking nerds anyway. Fuck anyone who can’t except you for the real you. Tell them to kick fucking rocks and stop being such uninteresting shallow fucking losers. You don’t need that energy

This is something I struggle with and end up not asking for help or just completely shutting down 🥺

Omg 😧 I know this feeling so so much! And always being “too sensitive” especially

i was told a good response to this is “bye enjoy having less”

Knowing it but its getting better. Oversharing by nature. While realizing it, I start to apologize instantly but not extreme. Like „ I am sorry maybe you dont wanted to hear that“ „didnt want to bother you“ „I am sorry, that was lot of talking“ „ I talked myself in to Rage, sorry for that“ „whats your thought on that!“ If I do it directly I can get a Feedback, often people are not overwhelmed as much as I thought. In cases I overwhelm them they can see I am atleast reflected and not oversharing all the time . Helped me not to isolate because of pretending to know what people think of me.

So nice to hear that I am not alone with this🫶🫶

Wow! I totally get this. I guess it's the reason why I don't have any friends and only very limited communication with my family members. I don't understand the friction, because when I ask what the negative reactions are about they can never point to anything I did wrong. In fact, most interactions have something to do with me helping others in some way.

Yes, I absolutely know the feeling!

I’m with you girl

I was always told growing up that I was a “chronic oversharer” and was told to curb that before I started working because I would undoubtedly get myself in trouble. I was able to spin that view because I’m now a People & Culture Director for an organization that truly values its people, so I can really be an empathetic and untrained therapist as I like to say :)

100% too many times i’ve sat with those feelings. the book “a gentle reminder” by Bianca Sparacino helped me alot! it’s a REALLY easy read. each page just felt like i was reading a long text from a wise friend who really cared about me. my feeling were validated and it helped reduces my shame/guilt and try to lean into self acceptance and openness toward others.

Totally get it. A lot of it has to do with people’s ability to empathize and have emotional intelligence. Everyone has their own little lens they interpret things through; some have wider lenses than others. Those with narrow lenses often shun people with different values, habits, etc they don’t understand—because they don’t have the emotional intelligence to do so. Neurodivergent people often have wider lenses because we are forced into that, but there are also neurotypical folk who have learned to be curious about people and understand those who are different, instead of imposing judgment. I make those people my people. And when I meet someone else who rubs me the wrong way (like one of my colleagues who is a direct communicator, but she’s great), then I try to understand why they act like that, and why those things bother me so much (direct communication often equates to criticism, for me). In having conversations with people about those things (it bugged me when you said x, can you explain what you meant…?), I find we grow closer, and they want to understand me more, too.

Yes and I remember times as a kid “being myself” and then learning to hold it back because others reacted negatively

Thank you so much 🥰 never thought about that

Somehow it also helpd to read about ADHD and its downfalls to know that you are not being too much...you are different in a good and fascinating way and many people are like you. If you know what i mean

Yes!!! It helps me to talk open about my emotions, thoughts and ways of acting. My friends appreciate me trying and iam sure your friends and your family will too. Comfort shows also do the trick.