I need a breakup so bad :/

I’m kinda just venting but it’s ADD related as well so I just wanted to let it out on here. I realized I’ve been too comfortable and bored in my relationship that my hygiene and self care and self worth have all plummeted significantly, and my boyfriend of almost 3 years is kind of unwilling to grow and unwilling to give me space to grow. I love him so much and I thought I was happy in this for so long but I’m just not even taking care of myself anymore. I know I need to get my life together and get out of our inescapable cycles, it’s just been what I’ve been used to for so long. I don’t really even have anyone else in my life right now, but I know I can’t do this with him anymore and I know it might not be what I want to do but what I need. I don’t want to lose him but I’m not even taking care of me! Idk feeling really stuck honestly :/

Nissi

Love yourself first and let him go. Sometimes, is easier to let go than to hold on to something or someone that will cause damage.

adhdmusic

Sounds like you have to go thru a difficult thing you don’t want to do but it’s for your best self to realign and anyone who doesn’t get it or even want to learn then they don’t sound worth stressing and forgetting to love yourself bc what can ya do for them if you don’t love you? Tell them this or just leave if it’s dangerous but being alone has helped me grow more than anything and I have social anxiety so I struggle w relationships bc I have come so far I’ve got boundaries that protect me from that now but also it takes a lot of desire for yourself to do it but there is someone out there who will get ya and want to see you at your best and happy so don’t give up just don’t settle neither good luck

marcnking

A lot of the things I need to work on are ADD and schedule related, but I just know I need to work on me before I can be with anyone else

Cazzie24

Maybe you could live apart for a while so you can get things under control because you may still need each other for emotional support.

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