swedish boy avatar
swedish boy
25
7 days ago

Grandparents are the nicest ppl

Sometimes I can't understand grandpa! Like today I asked my dad's if I could go to Grandpa and cheer him up after homework cuz yesterday he lost his one year older sister that have been like sick in Alzheimer's since I was little and now Grandpa also have a little Alzheimer's but not so bad yet. Dads agreed and said like I was a good boy cuz it was noone that could make grandpa as happy as I could. I decided that I would say yes to everything and actually fake like it even if I didn't cuz this should be grandpa's time so like I prepared for eating like boring old man food, listen to he teaching me about our Jewish traditions, talk about history and about my schoolwork and watch the news and all things Grandpa likes to do. It's not like I hate it either, I like just to be with him but sometimes it's gets a little boring. Then i came there it's like he got so happy and helped me take of my jacket and was like "come sit I go and get candy" and started to ask me what I wanted to do, said we can eat whatever I want and watch like cartoons or if I'm to big for that action movies or whatever I wanted and we could order pizza. I said to him: "Grandpa thank you for being so kind but I'm here cuz I want to make you happy cux you are in grief about your sister and I want to do everything you want to do and I will really not get bored or anything cuz its about you today Grandpa cuz I don't want you to be sad!" Then grandpa came close next to me and put his arm around me and like started to kiss my head and said: "yes I know Noah! You are a very kind boy and my biggest blessing and thats what I want to do today. I want to do the thing I like most and can not do everytime then you visit me cuz then your father's would be angry at me and say I spoil you so that's why I do my duty as grandfather and learn you about our culture, about Hashem, about moral and ethics and everything a grandfather are supposed to do so I'm also a blessing for you and for your father's but today I just want to think about me and Im to sad to be a good grandfather so today I just want to spoil you and make you happy Noah cuz that is what I like to do most of all! Then you laugh and smile and eat with desire because you get all that unhealthy food you love so much then I enjoy life by just looking at you! I have already told your dad to go and shop for us. What do you want Noah? Pizza? Thai? Hamburger? And this small sodas you like so much that your dads don't like then you buy all the time... Energy someting do you want those???" Like I didn't know what to say so I was like: "aaare you.. sure.. grandpa? Is this what you want then I say I do anything that you want me to cuz I want this day to be all about you?" Grandpa hugged me like an old bear and put his big head down down against my head and like I felt his tears and he said: "yes this is what I want most - just see you as happy as only you can be because that is the best thing to make me happy!" So now I got pizza and sit next to Grandpa in his living room and he is like: "feel free to do exactly everything you want to do. Sit with your phone if you want to and we can watch whatever you like! I just want to watch you being happy because my sister has lived a long life and now it's over and my life has also been long and it will also be over but you are life and future and that makes me happy to watch!" I read this to him before posting it and he said: "did you write about me? I'm only an old man, no one wants to read about an old man" but then I told grandpa: "you are wrong Grandpa! Everyone wants to read about you cuz you are the wisest and most cool Grandpa ever and I love you soooo much" Now I don't want to sit with my phone anymore, now I want to be with Grandpa and I will choose something I know he also likes cuz they makes me happy that we do something that we both enjoy.

Grandparents are the nicest ppl

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emmB@ avatar
emmB@
6d

You’ll be able to tell your granpa that I was very interested in hearing about him, the « old man » 😊 He sounds like a very wise person, and a very loving grand-father. I don’t find that very surprising because when you wrote about your dad, he also sounded like a wise and loving father. I’m very happy for you that you can grow up surrounded by such good people. I never had this kind of relationship with my grand-parents (some died when I was very young, and the others were very different people from your granpa), but I hope to be such a person for my grand-kids if I ever have those 😊

swedish boy avatar
swedish boy
6d

Thank you! 🩵❤️

jw2007 avatar
jw2007
6d

Your grandfather is amazing! Cherish him all the days that you’re able to. ❤️ As Alzheimer’s and Dementia also are in my family, it is so hard to watch them “grow older.” With a lot of respect and patience, understanding and kindness, you two will be the best duo!

swedish boy avatar
swedish boy
6d

Thank you! Yeah me and Grandpa talk like most days cuz we are farmers and grandpa had the farm before dad so he still lives on the farm and will do cuz thsts how we do it in out family so he is like living 100 meters from me and I go to him with post and collect what he need from store and all that and I clear snow from his entrance and get him wood for fireplace and like many things so we talk like many times every day.

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