Oh my god! I had a PSW for my boys this summer, and she’d come and in the first twenty minutes of being here clean my living room in what takes me hours to do! Granted the gathered piles. But still, it’s what she did, that I couldn’t do! I could then later work through those piles, so I was so grateful. She’s gone and now I try to spend at least twenty minutes a day in each room doing SOMETHING. But my boys come home, and then in the time they wake up before I get up when they’re with their dad. They do more damage than what I can clean! They’re (almost) six and seven and ALL of us have ADHD. So no one wants to clean, and the rest of the family are also on the spectrum. So it makes the challenges of the household so much more fun. One wrong move in saying something, and I can get not just a meltdown, but a problem that arises. I spent MONTHS looking for a house manager to no avail. Finding the PSW was a blessing, and wish it would have worked for longer. But boys with ASD and ADHD can be a lot to work with especially 2:1. We could never find a second one before she left. *Sigh* No shame EVER in what you have. And to anyone who wants to judge a person who got extra help, F**k them! It’s not easy, there’s so many different expectations on people now between work, families, responsibilities. God forbid you have complications like ADHD that make it all that much harder to struggle through in a day. I don’t even work because of all that I have to do in the day for the kids, and then it’s like, trying to manage the house too! It’s a lot especially with ADHD, I just stare at messes too overwhelmed to know where to even begin. Never any judgement! You’re blessed! Enjoy your downtime! It’s yours!
