Misinterpreting Tone

Does anyone else sometimes have the problem with others misinterpreting your tone in conversation or tasks at hand? Like this seems to happen to me a lot.. For example; At work I have been told that I sometimes sound frustrated or agitated when presenting solutions or answers to questions, but in reality I am very passionate about my job and tend to talk faster/louder when I know the correct answers to questions.. I’m not sure how to adjust this aspect of my ADHD. Does anyone have this issue or tips on how to improve?

MS.ADHD.Em

Ever since I can remember, I’ve gotten in ‘trouble’ for my tone. To me, in my head, it sounds normal - to the person hearing me, it’s a verbal attack. I try to be mindful of it, but man…. I legit don’t hear it 🥴

MandaLynn

Right there with ya..

Yes! Especially when talking things out with my husband!

MandaLynn

Ughhh the worst! “I swear I’m not mad! My thinking hat is on”

catnapsallday

Yeah, I’ve noticed that sometimes. If I record myself and listen back to it, I can tell. But not in the moment. I ask family when I want to check that my tone matches my intention.

MandaLynn

Most of my family has ADHD.. my household was LOUD because everyone had to try to talk over each other just to be heard 🤦‍♀️ no such thing as “waiting your turn to talk”.. since being medicated I have noticed that I don’t have the superpower to listen to more than one conversation at a time, and the talking over each other makes me flustered/anxious.. weird how different my brain is on meds and how it effects conversations between my non-medicated family 😅

Miss.Harley

also my bf says u scream or haul at him when I’m worked up and I don’t even notice the volume change. So now he kindly reminds me of my tone or level of my voice, so I calm down and breathe.

Miss.Harley

I babysit and I can tell when my tone changes because it scares the one kid I have. Very sensitive kid. But that’s my eye opener to go take a break and breathe.

sleepysquirrel

Yes it's me 😭 I often get told that I sound angry when I'm just caring about things I talk about

sleepysquirrel

Yesss same

MandaLynn

My voice gets louder and I start speaking faster when I’m talking about things I know and/or passionate about..

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