Undiagnosed

I wanted to know how easy was it for you to get diagnosed with ADHD as an adult female? I went to my psychiatry in the summer to talk about it but after they heard my list (I wrote everything down in my phone notes) they told me I don't have an ADHD just because I had good grades as a kid. It was a very stressful time for me as I was about to get married and I just took that as it is and thought that I guess she's right because I'm not a doctor. The though of the ADHD actually started a friend of mine who had gotten recently diagnosed and everything she told me was like "story of my life". And now since I have joined two communities of ADHDers I feel like at home and understood. 😭 I have a lot of shame around my freezing and procrastination or just being in the fog. And hearing that other people are experiencing it too just somehow helps. I can have somewhat organized life but only when there are other people involved because I'm very responsible person. (To the point it hurts sometimes.) My routines are based more around my husband's because I couldn't do them on my own before we met. 😂 But that can only be applied to morning and evening, and the working day part for me is what makes it difficult. And I am self employed / solo business owner. I know what should I do but I might freeze, sometimes I just get so overwhelmed that I don't even know what to do and just potatoe on the couch. 😂😅 I'm also not sure if I really need the diagnosis but I guess that would just comfirm my feelings and thoughts.