I completely understand the body insecurity thing when it comes to sex in your relationship. My personal insecurities combined with not understanding my fluctuations in sex drive has caused so many problems for my relationships in the past. There are a few things I do in my relationship now that make such a difference, I never could have expected. I think it’s so important for every couple to do something together that they enjoy, a hobby, sport, passion, or whatever. My partner and I do MMA training together. It’s something stimulating for both our minds and bodies, and it gives us an environment to connect, be vulnerable, and feel closer to each other. The physical activity is great for our health and confidence, and our sex drive is definitely higher when the endorphins are flowing.
The second thing is that we almost always shower together. I know that not every couple has the ability with their schedules to do it all the time, but every time we workout together, we shower together. Being naked in the shower is such a vulnerable place and often a space where we think a lot. Being in the shower together, we laugh the hardest, talk about deep stuff we would normally just think about in the shower alone, and make sure we are both clean from head to toe.
Shower sex is a lottt more frequent too ;)