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pimenta
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9 months ago

chores

Who else cannot have anyone over because their apartment is disgusting! Honestly getting myself to do chores is my largest obstacle :(

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kesleamammen
8mo

I start one room but then realize I need something to finish the chore so go to get that thing and then forget what I’m doing and start a whole different project and the cycle just continues from there

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kesleamammen
8mo

My literal life

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8mo

Same and I sure don’t have any answers. I’m new here, hope this app helps! I can’t even begin to describe how bad my house is but to give you an idea, I have a dog and haven’t swept my floor for two months

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slice_of_mind
8mo

I think my best way to get myself to do boring things is listening to audiobooks. Audible allows you to set a sleep timer which can be used to "microdose" the book while cleaning or doing something similarly boring. I can't listen to audiobook sitting straight, so movement and physical work is really natural this way.

tanuki avatar
tanuki
8mo

Yeah I struggle with this too. Define though if I put on music or listen to a funny show it makes it more enjoyable

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blablamouse
8mo

I don’t have or make friends because of that

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hallowqueen
8mo

I also think of the spoon theories for us …. Normal non adhd ppl have like 20 spoons to do things everyday like work eat chores and so on and us adhd ppl have 10 spoons and when we’re down to our last spoons or spoon we’re burnt out and grasping for the energy to get the things we need done

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hallowqueen
8mo

I’m the same, it’s like I really wanna be productive but I know if I start cleaning I’ll find something I haven’t seen for weeks and I’ll stop and obsess over it and then the plan the to clean is gone

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ADHD teen
8mo

I have the same problem with cleaning my room no matter how har I try I just can’t seem to do it.

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ezrara
8mo

I feel the same. Luckily I have a friend who is understanding, and just having him over makes me go into clean mode! (Body-doubling) I’d suggest trying it out if there’s someone you trust

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amyrae
8mo

The first time my boyfriend came over he was like wow your really messy hey?! We are prepping to move in. I move nov 1 and I’m TERRIFIED! He’s not adhd but he’s understanding but he’s so clean and type a.. and I’m so… not 😭

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Sam ZT
8mo

I’ve found that just the terror prep when you think someone is coming (aka a rush clean 15 mins). This is really enough in my opinion to help kickstart good habits of you’re reading this & ready

pimenta avatar
pimenta
8mo

Yes and yes! I might invite acquaintances over just for that reason 😆

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cocosparkle
8mo

This works for me too!! But I am notorious for saying they can’t come over 🤣🤣🤣

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brainfogger82
8mo

Also my biggest obstacle

ariesors avatar
ariesors
8mo

Usually the having people over freak out is my drive to clean 😹

pimenta avatar
pimenta
8mo

same I can’t even be mad!!!

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dxnnxgxtxn
8mo

Hmm, in my case happens that i receive once per week or at least around 9 days to activate the hyper focus to clean

mommy2millers avatar
mommy2millers
8mo

I live in CHAOS - “can’t have anyone over syndrome”. I want to stop it now

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hallowqueen
8mo

My parents nicknamed me the tiny tornado because I’m nothing but chaos … I feel you 100%

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8mo

Here here!

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bacon4ever
8mo

I’ve been reading the book “How to Keep House While Drowning” by KC Davis, LPC She suggests that we swap our use of the word “chores” for care tasks. That we are RESETTING a room once it has past its point of functioning for us. Be kind to yourself, you can do this!

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hodgeheg
8mo

Aha. I read this too. Game changer book. ‘Resetting’ is a major mindset shift.

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8mo

I like this. Self talk is so important. My therapist has been having me work really hard on that and not to be so judgmental of myself. I am going to incorporate this! Thanks for sharing!

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lissy_au
8mo

I’ve heard - eg this app- for concentration purposes using an app like this or YouTube for white/brown/pink noise as a background to help get your stuff done- I haven’t tried it yet but heard good things. My boyfriend said something to me the other day he said/ Do one thing a day of housework wether it’s washing/the dishes cleaning the toilet etc- and the next day (repeat) and so on and so forth- Because I might have 12 things I need to do I’ll do 10 and get tired and then burned out from doing those ten things at once and then I’m off for a few days to recover and ZERO is done and the vicious cycle repeats If this is you- try the one thing a day- big or small doesn’t matter- but one thing..

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8mo

This is so true! I find I am all or nothing and it seems to be a common ADHD trait. Like we go full blast, burn out and then do zero for what seems like forever before we get our second wind and repeat the same damaging cycle all over again.

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kotstoicki
8mo

Same for me. I have an urge to clean my space but at the same time I keep procrastinating and haven't found a routine that would not let it get to a massive mess again after I was finally able to clean it.

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kotstoicki
8mo

Same for me. I have an urge to clean my space but at the same time I keep procrastinating and haven't found a routine that would not let it get to a massive mess again after I was finally able to clean it.

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kotstoicki
8mo

Same for me. I have an urge to clean my space but at the same time I keep procrastinating and haven't found a routine that would not let it get to a massive mess again after I was finally able to clean it.

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EnfysEncourage
8mo

Yes I agree

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Sam ZT
8mo

I feel your pain! So much. I noticed the more stressed and anxious I get I either 1) obsess with my house bc I can control it or 2) become deathly afraid of washing dirty areas to a crazy point.

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Celote
8mo

Hear hear !

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ewelinaentrp
8mo

Same!!! My bf gets really overwhelmed himself whenever i didn't have time / energy to fully clean my place for his arrival :/

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adhdpocoyo
8mo

yes my friend just softban on me after that one i said cant have someone in my room.. it was a spacious room😭😭😂😂.. i was literally a hoarder that time

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pimenta
8mo

I mean at least we care about the comfort of our friends……..

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OllieK526
8mo

I've been hiding behind it for too long. People make me stressed out more than I already am. I have an entire winter of chores to catch up on and it's already almost fall again. SUPER overwhelming.

pimenta avatar
pimenta
8mo

people think Im joking when I say its time for my annual cleaning 🫢

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pimenta
8mo

people think i’m joking when I say it’s time for my annual cleaning 🫣

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ParabolicHeater
8mo

Feeling bad about stuff is the theme

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timeisfake
8mo

I feel you :( but You’re trying your best and that’s all what matters, sooner or later there will be a energy boost at 2am trust me /gen :3

tania avatar
tania
9mo

I was living like this))) but then I just thought that if they love me for who I am why should I feel bad about chaos in my appointment?))

pimenta avatar
pimenta
8mo

ooooffff if only it was just a little chaos 😳

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ADHDee84
9mo

I can relate

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MoBunz
9mo

I struggle with this too. I find that when I tackle tasks little at a time I am more likely to pull through. For example, I clean my fridge one shelf at a time and tell myself I can stop at any point. Rather than emptying out the entire fridge, getting overwhelmed with the mess, stopping mid cleaning… till I finally start panic cleaning, which by then tears are involved. I do a little at a time and promise myself I can stop at any point and keep that promise. I know it’s easier said than done but little tips and tricks is how we get by!

pimenta avatar
pimenta
8mo

your comment helped me get something done

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DasSchwim
9mo

Literally same, sometimes using a Spotify workout playlist gets me motivated to get moving and get stuff done.

pimenta avatar
pimenta
8mo

I put on a podcast to clean the toilet yesterday. Not thinking of cleaning while I’m cleaning helped

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MoBunz
9mo

Music is great! I have a special playlist for any task. Driving, cleaning, shopping etc.

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