Although it’s an actual mental disorder/condition, I can’t help but avoid mentioning my ADHD people cause I don’t want to be “that” person who labels everything as ADHD trait, even though it literally effects my way of life. Back of my mind I’m like “why should I feel embarrassed to say this” Anyone else like this?
So I hate having adhd and didn’t realize literally until now that its a big contributor to a lot of my mental health and relationship issues but what i hate the most is that I don’t know how much more I can take everyone i love leaves I can’t even imagine how it feels to be normal again
I suggest journaling. When I’m at my low points, I tend to find that I forget I have a lot of good days so what I do every now and then is journal my day, make a goal checklist. This helps you remember your life isnt just shitty & also helps you identify what triggers your emotions. Eg. I found if I feel the urge to want to have a drink of alcohol a lot more often than usual, I take a step back & reflect whether this is an emotional response & then try to fix it. + also found out I get really angry/emotional a few weeks after I drink, so now I tend to avoid it.
I feel you on this, I came to a point where I eventually went the therapy & it was so helpful. It allowed me to say whatever I wanted since it was to someone I didn’t know & they aren’t in my life to judge. Im better now after a few sessions & eventually learnt how my brain works. Im sorry you’re going through that, it gets rough sometimes. Try find Something you like to do/hobby that makes you feel good about yourself. I do painting and listen to music for days I need me time & peace. Don’t forget to make time for yourself & reduce the things you do for others because it’s your life that you need to care for. Your mental health first <3
Very much can relate but i also dont really care about peoples opinions of me that much an i try to look at it as a preemptive warning to them and gives them a chance to mentally prepare and understand why i do some of the things i do. An its helped a lot actually just being straight up about it, especially when i need assistance with something i get overwhelmed with that goes with adulting like signing uo for insurance for example im not good at paperwork and the overwhelm will make me continue to put it off.
Absolutely relate to this.
I have that issue even with my husband now
I feel this as well and what sucks is another co worker claims to have it as well but really she just smokes pot all day at work and can’t remember stuff cuz she is high and I know this cuz my friend told me they have been smoking together at work and idk what to do I want to tell my boss cuz it pisses me off that she uses adhd as her excuse when she is just fucked up but at the same time it’s not my place to meddle with her affairs
Very valid thank you.
Smoking pot at work isn't ok. I would definitely say something to the boss about that. But smoking can be a coping mechanism for ADHD so I wouldn't be 100% sure she doesn't have it.
I definitely relate to this. It feels like walking a tightrope between telling someone as a form of education/communication about my behavior vs it coming across as an “excuse.” Hate it.
