theadhdmom avatar
theadhdmom
24
8 days ago

Do you have a routine?

Do everybody here have a daily routine? I have a REALLY hard time started and maintaining one and I'm under the impression that forcing a routine is more stressful than helpful here. The thing is that having a predictable routine is almost mandatory to help mental health, thriving and whatever...now I also have a 2yo and it's like almost mandatory for them routine have structured routines, according to professionals, so I feel guilty. So...is it possible to have a flexible daily/weekly routine and still have a good/healthy life? Does anyone here feels the same?

KatyMc avatar
KatyMc
1d

I resonate with this so much! I like having a routine but absolutely hate repetitive days πŸ˜‚πŸ˜… I sound like a bit of a sales man here but Numo has been SO helpful in listing the things I HAVE to do (like getting kids breakfasts and making dinner, taking medication, brushing teeth etc) and I’ve put them in an order that I do them or want them done.. this has sort of naturally formed a loose routine (morning tasks, afternoon tasks, evening tasks) 😊 so there’s routine.. but plenty of room for flexibility 😊😊

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martin777
3d

A good year ago I started building routines for my and actually sticking to them. I think what makes it possible for me to stick to them is the shift in mindset. I don’t do the routine for the sake of doing a routine because ppl told me I need one. I went the other way around and asked myself what I want in my life. Some things were good and should stay as they are, other areas needed to change. In the next step I asked myself, what someone with the life I want would do (or not do) and I created (and am still creating) my routines around this concept. I knew what I wanted/needed to do in order to create the life I want. And then I built this around my day. I knew I had to leave for work at a certain time, I knew what I wanted to do before, so that gave me my wake up time. This was literally a quantum leap for me because knowing the why makes it so much easier to stick to it for me. Obviously I have days when I don’t want to do the tasks. But reminding myself of why I do it, gets me to follow through anyway. I hope this helps, if you have questions, let me know πŸ€

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fAmDiHlDy
4d

Well I don't really know how to keep a routine honestly but I do have a routine in the morning which isn't really a necessary routine if looked on from the outside and can even cause problems to other things that need to be done in certain times but without it I get really stressed and anxious. πŸ˜…πŸ™ˆ

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spacedust
6d

I don't have and am doing bad on university because os this and because of living alone probably. I went on many phases of putting lots of things on a list and doing nothing, currently going back to basics and doing two things until I can do them consistently and call them a routine, before adding a third thing... I am not schedulig things yet (remaining flexible cause it overwhelms me having a time stamp), perhaps in the future But about your worry, I am gonna be illustrative here. I am sure that your are doing great, being worried shows that you are conscious about your childs need which is a great sign, so be gentle about yourself. I was probably raised by a mom with adhd or autism, only my brother was diagnosed on the spectrum as an adult. She didn't like or couldn't have structure, so I didn't realize until later that I needed that, her mathematics habilities are much better than her cooking ones haahah. Even so I feel like her care and support outstand her flaws, and her attitude and kindness are important as well. So, in short, you are one step ahead by knowing that you have adhd and that children will benefit from structure, so be gentle to yourself in your process to find a routine to your family. PS: Instead of looking on the clock, perhaps start by connecting one activity to another like bath after dinner, or brush teeth after breakfast?? I hope I can do this myself ahahha

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