How do I always feel under appreciated.

I feel so try control everyone’s emotions around me by doing good things for them. I do many tasks. I will verbally prop people up and I will shower people with gifts and it’s okay for most the time but it’s like I give so much at times I end up feeling empty. So I go back through all in every situation that I’ve helped people out and just done a mental inventory on their responses, and when I feel they haven’t shown appreciation, I have like this a big emotional outburst anyone else feel this, how do I to come this?