Making plans
Do y'all's friends ask you to do stuff or are you the one always asking them to hang out? I've noticed over the last few years that if I'm not the one asking to hang out I don't get contacted at all except by maybe two people, of course those are the out of town friends that just chat with me when they can. No one local contacts me to hang out, even my family will make plans then wait to ask if I want to join right before they are about to leave, which I can't be ready in two minutes. One friend I haven't seen since our friend from California last visited and her phone isn't broken and we are still friends on Facebook so she has multiple ways of getting in contact with me. Crickets, for years now. It's one thing if it's a back and forth relationship of inviting each other to spend time together but I feel I shouldn't have to beg people to spend time with me.