Low mood and starting again

I am 28F living in a big city and I feel that my life has been really on a slow decline in the last year and in the last week especially. After a breakup from long distance bf 7 months ago I’ve been really struggling with depression and low mood. Feeling almost paralysed and bed ridden at least a few days a week (sometimes more), and doing most normal things feels like such a struggle for me. I am not diagnosed with adhd yet but seem to have all the symptoms as a female, not hyper active but more internally troubled and so many emotions and thoughts happening at the same time. I am really overwhelmed by all this and sometimes I really need a break from the world but that doesn’t align with my work and adult responsibilities and my goals of running my own coaching business online and travel the world in a year from now. Anyway. Going back to basics from today and will start going back on track by setting small achievable goals and just focus on one thing at the time. Constantly getting in despair and just numbing myself with days of social media scrolling doesn’t seem to help me much at all. So definitely need a change and fresh start. I really want to break the habit of being myself and acting this way. I was such a promising student as a kid, smart, funny, big personality, lots of natural confidence and now I can’t even recognise myself. I am a shell of that little girl. I really don’t know what happened but so far apart from a few sporadic periods of pure blissful happiness, my 20s have been so hard and depressing! Is this ever going to change? Or will it only get worse later on? Any word of support or encouragement will be appreciated 🙏🏻 lots of love to everyone readying this and if you are also going through a hard time, hope you can find the strength to start again x

sojo29

7mo

Wow this is exactly how I felt. I am also trying to figure it out. I’m a mess myself. Thought I would have it together by now. I’m sorry I don’t have helpful advice but maybe knowing others are struggling helps? I also am 28 too.

crazycat

7mo

I can completely relate to this. But trust me as someone who has gone through this. Things won’t be the same. Work on yourself and make yourself awesome. That’s the best way to come out of it.

takoyakichi

7mo

I am 27F and you have articulated what I am going through perfectly. I get stuck in these loops of paralysis where I can’t do the most basic of things and stay in bed for days/weeks scrolling to pass time but not really paying attention to anything. To offer some words of support, it has finally started improving slowly for the first time since starting meditation! I have tried 3 different ones with no success, and thought I would never get back to that little girl full of hope and life. But I switched yet again (ritalin) and I finally feel like something is helping me! It mutes my spiralling thoughts and allows me to do certain things. Now gotta figure out timing and dose lol! Don’t give up and talk to your doc! You sound exactly like me so there’s a big chance you might be diagnosed too. Medication helps A LOT (but still need to make efforts) :)

hshsgsgsgs

7mo

Start from today. God bless you.

Lana 🪽

7mo

I feel your pain.. You’re not alone in your fight ❤️‍🩹

Ramik

7mo

Here is little nature view for your mood)

Altpeachjelly

7mo

I’m going through a similar situation. My boyfriend and I broke up months into moving to a new city for university. The isolation and anxiety of managing so many adult tasks was debilitating. I was scrabbling to survive for over a year and it was depressing. It does get better though. I don’t use any social media. With ADHD, it’s a mental trap. Task tracking helps and I use YPT to track studying in groups with other students. Getting out to multiple spaces is also uplifting. I joined random clubs, worked out at a gym on and off campus, studied at different cafes and libraries, etc. A cat also helps haha. Please hang on and keep going! A psychiatrist is your first step but also continue working on your systems in the meantime. Best of luck!

Hasdxb

7mo

Tough times don’t last tough people do! You keep going!

ursulamajor

7mo

Fully transparency, the best therapist I ever had was actually a psychiatrist (which insurance helps you pay for!). So I would recommend finding a psychiatrist who takes your insurance, can do a proper assessment on you for diagnosis, get you on meds that make a difference for you, and tell them you’re interested in some therapy sessions as well. Truly was the most effective and budget friendly option with insurance (especially while being a broke student).

ursulamajor

7mo

Ooooh girl, this is all so relatable. My twenties were frankly a sh*tshow and just really HARD. But I am here to tell you that the difficult and often painful lessons learned in your twenties pay many dividends in your thirties and beyond. While it is brutal going through what you’re going through, keep the hope and faith that there was an important lesson baked into it all that the universe wanted you to learn or the universe used to steer you towards things better meant for you. Also, HIGHLY recommend finding a good therapist. I didn’t start therapy until my late twenties and holy molyyy that would’ve been insanely helpful. Sending you love 🩵

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