Low mood and starting again

I am 28F living in a big city and I feel that my life has been really on a slow decline in the last year and in the last week especially. After a breakup from long distance bf 7 months ago I’ve been really struggling with depression and low mood. Feeling almost paralysed and bed ridden at least a few days a week (sometimes more), and doing most normal things feels like such a struggle for me. I am not diagnosed with adhd yet but seem to have all the symptoms as a female, not hyper active but more internally troubled and so many emotions and thoughts happening at the same time. I am really overwhelmed by all this and sometimes I really need a break from the world but that doesn’t align with my work and adult responsibilities and my goals of running my own coaching business online and travel the world in a year from now. Anyway. Going back to basics from today and will start going back on track by setting small achievable goals and just focus on one thing at the time. Constantly getting in despair and just numbing myself with days of social media scrolling doesn’t seem to help me much at all. So definitely need a change and fresh start. I really want to break the habit of being myself and acting this way. I was such a promising student as a kid, smart, funny, big personality, lots of natural confidence and now I can’t even recognise myself. I am a shell of that little girl. I really don’t know what happened but so far apart from a few sporadic periods of pure blissful happiness, my 20s have been so hard and depressing! Is this ever going to change? Or will it only get worse later on? Any word of support or encouragement will be appreciated 🙏🏻 lots of love to everyone readying this and if you are also going through a hard time, hope you can find the strength to start again x

Lana 🪽

2mo

I feel your pain.. You’re not alone in your fight ❤️‍🩹

Ramil Numo

2mo

Here is little nature view for your mood)

Altpeachjelly

2mo

I’m going through a similar situation. My boyfriend and I broke up months into moving to a new city for university. The isolation and anxiety of managing so many adult tasks was debilitating. I was scrabbling to survive for over a year and it was depressing. It does get better though. I don’t use any social media. With ADHD, it’s a mental trap. Task tracking helps and I use YPT to track studying in groups with other students. Getting out to multiple spaces is also uplifting. I joined random clubs, worked out at a gym on and off campus, studied at different cafes and libraries, etc. A cat also helps haha. Please hang on and keep going! A psychiatrist is your first step but also continue working on your systems in the meantime. Best of luck!

ursulamajor

2mo

Fully transparency, the best therapist I ever had was actually a psychiatrist (which insurance helps you pay for!). So I would recommend finding a psychiatrist who takes your insurance, can do a proper assessment on you for diagnosis, get you on meds that make a difference for you, and tell them you’re interested in some therapy sessions as well. Truly was the most effective and budget friendly option with insurance (especially while being a broke student).

ursulamajor

2mo

Ooooh girl, this is all so relatable. My twenties were frankly a sh*tshow and just really HARD. But I am here to tell you that the difficult and often painful lessons learned in your twenties pay many dividends in your thirties and beyond. While it is brutal going through what you’re going through, keep the hope and faith that there was an important lesson baked into it all that the universe wanted you to learn or the universe used to steer you towards things better meant for you. Also, HIGHLY recommend finding a good therapist. I didn’t start therapy until my late twenties and holy molyyy that would’ve been insanely helpful. Sending you love 🩵

pinkkoala

2mo

Aww thank you so much for this. It really helps to know that it does get better later on in life. I love your perspective and do believe that there is always a lesson to learn behind what may appear as failures in someone’s life. Thank you for your encouraging words. 🙏🏻 When it comes to therapy I have tried short form therapy in spring (about 6 sessions) through my university which was quite helpful. I was considering looking for a new therapist to see on a longer term basis but kind of struggling with my finances as a student at the moment to be able to afford a good one to see weekly. I tried to go for a cheaper alternative for students a couple of years ago which was with a younger therapist who was doing her hours of therapy training on me and I saw her for a year weekly but eventually I didn’t find that helpful and I was often leaving her office feeling more depressed than when I came in. So wouldn’t do that again. How did you find a good therapist if I can ask? I am open to look for online sessions too if I find someone suitable. I have also tried somatic practices like transformational breathwork and EFT tapping which I found helpful in the moment and I think they can provide great benefits in the long run if I commit to staying very consistent with those (I always struggled with consistency though!), bug I think that I will resort to doing those weekly until I find a really good therapist for talk therapy.

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