I am married for a year now with my husband who also has ADHD. You’re totally right when saying life couldn’t be more fun😊 andd yes, also more messy.😌
But! it turns out it is less chaotic than I expected when we we’re dating. We both have different ADHD-struggles and we help each other a lot. For example, I am the worst at getting somewhere on time and I get so much stress of having to cook. But he loves cooking and is not that timeblind, so he makes the meals and cheers me on so I won’t be late for work. I help him by opening his mail and organizing the house a bit, things I don’t have that much trouble with. :) For each couple it is important to discuss who can do what best and how you can help eachother, but maybe for ADHD-couples this is extra important.
And also, it’s just accepting the mess as part of your life I guess. In the kitchen we have a little wooden sign saying: a clean kitchen is a sign of a wasted life. That is a reasurring thing to be reminded of and helps to not take life too serious😉