Dating another ADHD person?

I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years with someone who also has ADHD. While at times it feels like this helps us understand and support one another, a lot of the time it’s the opposite. Frequent bickering, interrupting, not listening to one another, frustration, short tempers, lack of patience, etc. He accuses me of not having enough sympathy for his struggles (our issues manifest in very different ways), but I think it’s mutual. In many ways it feels more complicated than with non ADHD partners I’ve had in the past (even though I know this isn’t necessarily true). I often catastrophize our fights in my head, but I known this is also my emotional disregulation. I’m at the point where I don’t know if it’s worth continuing to work on our communication or if it’s becoming a deal breaker. Is there anyone else here who is or has been in a relationship with another ADHD person? Did this make you more compatible? Or is it a recipe for disaster?

t3chnopol1c3

Same, as my bf also has an ADHD with depression, I often feel catastrophically about his lack of engagement in the communication with me. We’ve been having wonderful intimacy, and we try to talk about our struggling. We support each other and sometimes, we have our own crisis. We try to talk, and that’s all🐝🐝🐝

loripiie

Someone very close to me also has ADHD that manifests in very different ways. I am unmedicated at the moment and he is medicated. When I was taking my meds, we took different medications that metabolized a little differently. He’d be hungry but I wouldn’t be so planning when to get or make a meal wasn’t easy. We both ruminate at night so it’s nice not being completely alone with my thoughts but it’s difficult when we’re both burnt out and need to disassociate. We live separately so it works out now but if we lived together we’d need completely separate spaces to recoup when overstimulated or burned out. The compatibility is there because we can empathize

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