lizziebaby23 avatar
lizziebaby23
16
10 months ago

How do y'all cope with being scammed?

I got scammed out of like $150 for believing a scammer and I'm trying REALLY HARD not to do the shame spiral thing. Any tips?

Scattermom avatar
Scattermom
10mo

I was scammed out of $950 dollars then the bank took another 950 to offset theor losses while being investigated, set me into debt, couldn't pay my bills, almost lost my vehicle then when i insisted it be investigated by the bank they told me they would not answer any questions and told me not to call again. They then proceeded to cancel my overdraft and close down all my accounts. It almost destroyed me emotionally and mentally but what helped me is not to get sad but to use that anger amd sadness to get the word out so it doesnt happen to anyone else. Knowing i can possibly prevent it feom happening to someone else took my mind off of it happening to me and focused it more in a positive direction.

stefka13x avatar
stefka13x
10mo

I like to think others do not know any better and are probably just doing something just to get by (those survival skills) whenever something happens to me that makes my mood sink. I like to think that they're struggling with something real difficult and would have done it to anyone and not just myself. It's hard to really get that mindset to click, but once that mindset clicks and when things happen that are out of our control and can't change, it can be very helpful to promote our wellness. At the end of the day, we have no control of what happens to us, but we can control how we react. Not as simple as it sounds though. Mindfulness is a really great tool for situations like this. Taking what happened and how we feel for what it is in the present moment without judgement and just accepting it happened and that's it. No interpretation needed, just the presence of those thoughts and emotions. If you do feel yourself slipping into those shameful feelings, let it happen and welcome those feelings as they come without trying to interpret why. Avoiding negative emotions can sometimes make things more distressing for us. Sometimes even accepting that feeling and allowing ourselves to experience it without trying to push it off can make it less distressing the next time that feeling pops up. Maybe welcome those feelings. We all experience them and your response of shame or sadness is appropriate for what happened as any of us would feel the same. It's not your fault! Feelings of shame and sadness are inevitable and part of the process of healing from what happens to us. Kinda complicated and maybe a little scary, but hey why not try?

lizziebaby23 avatar
lizziebaby23
10mo

Also for some reason the app won't let me like your comment 😂

lizziebaby23 avatar
lizziebaby23
10mo

Thank you so much for the time it took to write this. You gave me a lot to think about and I'm grateful 🥰

tiffanitwysted avatar
tiffanitwysted
10mo

It’s happened. It’s done. You can’t change that. It sucks. You live and learn. I got scammed 3 times last year, being too trusting - I knew better… but I gave the benefit of the doubt… never again - it’s just an experience I had to go through to learn even more about how shitty people are… karma’s a bitch and I know they’ll get what they deserve… mistakes and failures are part of life - with every learning experience we get smarter about what we allow to happen…

dealpickle98 avatar
dealpickle98
10mo

Honestly I don’t have much experience, but I do believe in doing your homework and if its giving you any doubts or weird feelings DONT DO IT

lizziebaby23 avatar
lizziebaby23
10mo

Ok I'm asking for advice after it's already been done tho lol but thanks for the warning in the future

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