I hate when I get a depressive episode....

Every once in a while, I get into a severe depressive episode, and in turn, it causes my ADHD symptoms to become severe. I know I need to get things done. My house being messy bothers me, but I just can't get out of bed. I'm a mom of 3 and my boyfriend doesn't understand that I want to do the tasks, but sometimes I can't and he just makes me feel worse. I don't know what to do.