I have “friends” not really friends anymore, and I keep trying to almost convince them to stay friends with me even though they ignore me. I apologize, for I don’t know what, and am having such a hard time moving on. I don’t know what I did, but it’s clear they don’t want to be friends. How do you just accept that?
It’s hard but you will realize that you deserve friends who give back to you more than you want to keep ones that don’t.
I'm totally in the same boat. Feel like I don't know what happened honestly. Ur welcome to add me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/pretty.fok.wise?mibextid=ZbWKwL
It won’t let me click the link but do you know how to message through this? Lol
It starts with looking at yourself and why you feel the need to hold on to people who are unhealthy for you. Do you cling to healthy relationships this way or just toxic?
I think I just don’t like the idea of being “unliked” but I think the cherry on the sundae was being told I’ve been a bad friend when I recently was diagnosed with MS and she accused me of lying so I think I need a therapist lol. I think I’m used to toxic relationships so it feels familiar?
Find new friends. Life is too short and stressful for that crap and you don't need the inner dialogue that such "friends" can saddle you with. There are people in the world who will adore you. Go find them.
I love that! I know there are good people out there, it’s just hard making friends so I try to cling to the few I have.
I’m sorry, it’s definitely not a fun place to be. I suggest reconnecting with your core values. Do you really want to care about someone who doesn’t care about you? Is a lukewarm friendship worth sacrificing your self-respect? What kinds of relationships do you want in your life? Because once you define that, you shouldn’t settle for less.
Yeah ADHDers can have a hard time knowing, or at times just acting on what our worth is, even if we know our worth. But you def need to learn how to be ok with being your own friend, being alone, till you find your true tribe. Because if all you’re doing is trying not to be alone, so you’re settling for people who don’t see your worth, well, then you need to get to know yourself again, and be ok having it be just you. And be happy. Don’t force something because you don’t want to be alone. You’ll end up feeling way more lonely
Oh I love that! That’s such a good way of thinking about it. I tried so hard to reach out countless times and was accused of not making “definitive” plans. Also that I lied about being sick so I think it’s time for kinder people!
