ADHD deniers

Yea, I explain that I’m sharing my experience and reasoning with them to educate them and help them understand my mind, my triggers and they way I see life. Then I still get the yeah but can’t blame everything on adhd.. I reply, tasks that are easy for you are so much harder for me and I expect you to feel proud of me or at least try and see the world through my eyes and research a little to learn about me. I said without him doing that how can he say he truely loves me if he doesn’t truely know or understand this big part of me. That helped him see well yeah it’s not going anywhere and he’s started listening better

ADHDers are particularly vulnerable to narcissists and sociopaths. It’s the Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. The narcissist love bombs you, and you gobble up the dopamine. Then, when they’ve got you, they hit you with rejection, which you cannot tolerate, so you start people-pleasing. And you dig yourself in deeper. And deeper. You may want to consider that your significant other isn’t a very nice person.

It can be like that with my spouse and parents. The important thing is to not give up! If they really care about you and know that you truly are trying your best, I’m sure eventually they will come to understand. It may take them some time to get there and come to terms with the fact that it’s a reality for the both of you, and it’s probably really hard for them to understand! My husband does seem to be coming around and is even supportive of the idea of me possibly starting medication to help. His coworker has ADHD and, I think getting to hear about from more than one person really helped him come around.

I didn’t have a romantic relationship like this but my father (who has the ADHD) was like this at the start.

Yes I left the relationship it just for that reason but that was a huge issue!