My demon brain won’t stop shaming me for the mistakes I make

Use a success jar. For every success in your day, put something in the jar like marbles or skittles or write the success on a slip of paper, fold it up and put that in the jar. And count everything. Got out of bed, success. Kinda made my bed, success. Brushed teeth, success. Made a to do list, success. Opened Nemo app, success. Did the dishes, success. Etc. etc. when the jar is full, reward yourself with a pre-determined reward. Do it. Then start a new jar. Your are training your brain to acknowledge all of the things you do successfully rather than focusing on all of the mess ups or problems. The more you focus on your successes, the more successes you have. You are literally re-parenting yourself. The other things are still there and have to be addressed but they are less impactful when your focus is on what you do right everyday. If you use the strategy to write down the successes, you get an extra boost when your jar is full if you read them. Then empty it and start a new jar. Use a clear jar so you can visually see progress happening each day as the jar gets fuller. You literally retrain your brain to not focus on all the ways you come up short and you feel more balanced and capable and more hopeful instead of hopeless. It’s what we all needed as kids and got the opposite and our brains are now stuck repeating the same self defeating messages to ourselves. This really helps. Side note- don’t make the jar too big. Use a small mason jar so you actually can stick with it long enough to reach the reward. And if you use candy to fill the jar, make sure it’s not something you like or you will be tempted to eat it, which defeats the purpose. And if you use m&ms, use the peanut ones, they are bigger and your jar fills faster! 😉

Demon brain is a perfect name!

Right there with you about this. Shame has been a constant companion recently. So hard to not take downfalls personally. Some things I'm playing with: 1- have and emergency ticklist of things to do when I start spiraling. It includes writing/braindump, 5 mins of mindful meditation and some form of exercise. 2- practicing acceptance and positive self talk. I am a good person, I am not my symptoms, I will keep trying to grow. 3- have a list of examples that prove that I am a good person and that my shame is detached from reality. I believe in you friend. Let's keep fighting.

Converse with it…I know I sound crazy but for some reason it’s worked at times for me. I sit down (with my timer of course), and basically meditate but in my head I’m talking to my adhd. Asking it why it’s being a jerk. And then also asking myself how and why it has any power over what I do or how I feel. It is hard for me to do at times, but it usually helps just putting me as ease and realizing this bully is actually just a tiny dog with a loud bark…I’m the one holding the leash.

Tell to him that Jesus, God of the Life and Everything - He LOVES You, even WITH MISTAKES! Tell to yourself - your are super! Yes! Just say to yourself -"Name, You are Super! " , withaut any logical meanings

First of all, breathe out slowly and tell yourself that you are doing actually better with such a break from your self-blaming pattern. Gift yourself for this: I use ice-cream as a reward, and it really helps me ❤️‍🔥 Hope you will be able to cope with this!

Giving you both a huge 30 second hug! It'll be okay! Just breathe, I too deal with this and it's something you have to train to fight for. Just like any fight, you've got to prepare. Make sure to give yourself a lot of positive reinforcement. By doing this, you may see a short film called whoopass. Which involves yourself as the lead character. Whooping up on those adhd bullies. It works, and I'm hoping it works for you too. Don't focus on the mistakes they shame you for. Focus on what you learned or what else you could've taken from that scenario also

I usually eat a great amount of chocolate. It doesn’t help, but it tastes good🤷🏻‍♀️❤️