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2 years ago

Ppl saying they have adhd

Is it weird for me to be pissed off when people who very much don’t seem to have ADHD say “I’ve been thinking I have adhd!” after they’re distracted by something or saying how they can’t ever sit still. — people who I know for years and years. Lived with them. They really do not! I wouldn’t assume this about someone I don’t know well, and ofc I’m no doctor but I’m really as sure as i can be about them. Pisses me off because I never even say I do… I struggle with it so much, but I just deal with it, and they seem to take it as a joke. I blame TikTok 😐. I think it’s too much over there. I don’t wanna feel angry about this, but the feeling’s there. And I don’t wanna tell people to stfu if they say they have adhd like that because I don’t wanna ignore their struggles… but it’s hard to have empathy when I’m struggling every single day with this, and they say it so genuinely about something as silly as being distracted by something once… Maybe this anger’s telling me I’m not getting enough support for my own “adhd” (undiagnosed, I’ve never visited a doctor so I’m not even sure if I do have it. It seems too likely though, it’d be an amazing surprise if I don’t…). But the thing is, i don’t even think I should get that kind of support… i think I should just make it work. But maybe that isn’t helpful. Or maybe I’m wrong and I shouldn’t ever assume no matter how long or how well I’ve known them? What do you think?… i don’t wanna be an a-hole about this stuff 😕 This is a rant, wanted support honestly. I never post so openly but something about this app makes it easy. Only been here a couple days but it’s a comfortable place. If you’ve read all this, thank you I really do appreciate it.

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fidgidor1477
1y

I understand what you're saying, I have this "anger" also. For me, I believe this stems from my late diagnosis and my struggle growing up. It can leave a "mark" on your self - esteem. Not sure how else to word it.

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nicophinerine
1y

it sounds a bit like projecting, in a way? like you had to suffer through people not believing you, so now you project that same thing. I mean, its not bad, its just a behavioral pattern you have to recognize and stop! And , imo, yeah, assuming whether someone cant or can have adhd or any other issues is always iffy, because you never truly know what sits inside somenoes head. You can direct them to helpful resources, you can tell them about how therapy works and what helps if they tell you they have similar problems to you, but dont just shoot them down! Its better to help and spread awareness this way rather than isolate people from yourself even further

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birdiesings
1y

More support may help. If possible, get to a doctor too. I think it helps knowing, and also finding out if there’s anything else going. That way you have a more solid sense of direction in working with it. It’s good you vented. And your reaction could be based in how we face RSD, and partially that it reminds you of the value of diagnosis. You deserve to know what you’re working with!! You’re safe here. See what you can do about taking those deserved next steps.

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