Feeling bad about yourself

Yesterday I got a birthday gift from one of my school colleges. I am graduted now. Long storu short that we were in the sane school then got to same college but different departments. The relation between us was nice but not that intimate. I have a closer relationship with her younger sister, who got me the gift and my clollege participated in. I knid of wonder would she bring me something if it werenfor he sister. But what I really hate myself for is that I didn't even tell her happy birthday at hers back in January. I feel people are loving me and wanting to have a relationship with me, but I am very bad at it, weither it is because I forget and bad at it at general, or because I used to have so strict rules or expectations of what I want from them. I really hate myself for not giving them the same care and love they give me. Or think about them as they think about me

joatmon23

Good friendships can ebb and flow. Sometimes you are close and sometimes not in touch. Give what you can, when you can. Make the effort to say thank you for thinking of me.

mel___

I’m struggling with a very similar situation with a friend of 20 years. It was his birthday 2 weeks ago and I still haven’t reached out. He’s never missed one of my birthdays, so my self criticism has been higher since then. Probably reminded myself 100 times and still forgot. My mother even reached out to him on his birthday. I feel horrible and can understand why I have a hard time maintaining friendships. I’ve also learned those people who want a friendship with you, will not be offended, they will do their best to understand. If you have rules, boundaries, or expectations, try openly communicating that with them and potentially compromise a solution that could benefit everyone. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in what we feel we did wrong, that we forget our good traits. People are loving you and wanting a relationship because they see all of your amazing traits that you may not be able to at this moment. We forget things, that doesn’t make us horrible people. We still have very big hearts with lots to offer 😊

Who am i?

I do sometimes forget they exist, thinking back I know if I had different expectation or approach we would have been a better friends

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