At work I always end up blurting out stuff in meetings or in our chat. In hindsight I feel like a lot of stuff are just personal opinions that I could have kept to myself, since it won't really benefit the team...
It honestly is very hard
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I’ve struggled with this too. Now I practice writing down all my comments, thoughts and questions and waiting until the end to address them. I also observe the room and if I’m the only one raising issues, I look at my list and choose only the very burning points. It’s a tough one if you’re very invested/excited about the subject of discussion. You can get disheartened if people don’t match your enthusiasm or worse, respond with rude remarks - so learn to look at impulse control as a way to guard your emotions.
I really recognize myself here. Will try it out!
If the meetings are virtual like zoom or something like that. Have a (physical) sticky note on your computer that says will this add value to the meeting? Or is this comment personal? Just give yourself a chance to think about it before you say something. And I say use a physical note instead of one on your desktop so that it doesn’t get closed out. And it’s always visible.
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Impulse control is a tough one. It will take a lot of practice, and probably some awkward situations. I usually try to reframe what someone has said to me, to show my understanding… it also gives me time to collect myself before blurting.
Not sure if this will help. Personally, I try to really lower my ego as much as possible so that I value their input 3x more than mine LOL.
Count to 10 before you speak. Then only offer either a solution to a problem or an encouragement to another team member unless you are doing a team brainstorm, anything goes with brainstorms.
