Hi guys, I'm worried to go get the testing done and when I prove I have ADHD all that's gunna for me is validate I was right but i know if I tell my mum she will just say , no you don't, or I new you did , when I kept telling her....
As a mom: I'm sorry you're going through this.. When my son was diagnosed with autism I thought "He's not autistic! He's just like me!" (Turns out we're both on the Spectrum..) A lot of times these kinds of things run in the family.. and it can be weird for parents who were never diagnosed themselves to see you be so much like them and hear "That's ADHD" for example because we were always told we were just not trying hard enough etc. It takes a bit to let go of the judgement we often internalized long ago and possibly even repeated to our kids because we came to believe it.. but in the end, it may actually be a really good thing as such self judgements are often super toxic and stand in our way.. Definitely get your test done.. and give Mom time to come to terms with it ♥️😊 *Hugs*
And we understand what are you dealing with! So thank you for sharing, and remember that here's your safe space, you can share all your struggles with us
The truth is that convincing her you have ADHD won't change anything :D Now, the most work is on your side - get to know your strengths and weaknesses, learn to hack your ADHD to function in the normal world, observe what triggers your need for stimulation and how to ease your overworked nervous system. If you have a diagnosis on paper, your mom won't be able to forbid you from taking potential medication; it will be recommended by a doctor, duh! 💁🏻♀️
My mom has the tendency to try to one-up me on how much better or worse she has it. I’ve learned through the “Five Agreements” that what others say or believe about me has nothing to do with me. What that means is that people’s opinions are just that; their opinions. They are not facts. Their opinions stem from their own experiences and belief systems and are only a reflection of that. Keeping this in mind helps to relieve the worry and hurt I could feel.
I'd suggest going to your GP and having a talk between just you and them. And sorry it's like this :,(
