Ryevlantheditz avatar
Ryevlantheditz
21
1 year ago

Executive Dysfunction at its finest

Does anyone else have trouble prioritizing and balancing even the simplest of tasks? I will juggle between prioritizing two very simple things for about the time it would take me to complete them. How would you combat this?

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mrmatt33
1y

I have been writing things down in my phone and then just doing it. This app helps tbh I can’t lie I look at my list of stuff and am like fuck I haven’t done this and this and this lmao 🤣 I’m chill with myself about it though and say to myself well I did get this done atleast… Perspective and self talk I think is so important for our mental health and happiness.

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keihra
1y

I do and that’s why I have been using this app. I am a people pleaser so I imagine the task I am doing is for someone else and it sometimes makes it easier.

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Raych32
1y

Yes. I'm horrible about it. Even changing my sheets (which I timed and takes 6 minutes) but I can't possibly change them regularly. I'll even tell myself they should be changed. But still. Nope

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bubblesbling
1y

Oh also I recently started using an Eisenhower Matrix app which had helped a lot!

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bubblesbling
1y

Yep!! I also get really bad decision paralysis because i have this fear of not doing everything perfectly and in the right order that is most efficient (oh how ironic!)... like if my list says buy cereal and that's it.. I'm standing there in the aisle sweating over every option and the nutritional content vs cost per scoop like I'm trying to figure out which wire to cut on planet killer bomb!! It's a life or wrong cereal decision.. 🥣💣

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firefly
1y

Yep, day in and day out. And then I do something that’s not on the list,, so there’s nothing to cross off. Admittedly, I have added a task to a list only to cross it off right away so that I have some sense of achievement.

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adhdatitsfinest
1y

OMG YES! I haven’t found a way to combat this but anything’s worth a shot!

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missmadison
1y

I have this issue as well. As Nikkiboo said, the things I struggle to prioritize are really items that don’t need to be completed in a specific order. It’s like we have a tendency to try to organize every little thing in a form of over compensation and suddenly we are crippled by the effort. The only thing that works for me is, “Is this task time-sensitive? (Does it have a deadline?)”. This is for things like feeding pets, submitting paperwork, etc. External deadlines. Those come first. Everything else is just, “don’t think, just do”. Sure there may be an ideal order to accomplishing the tasks, but spiraling on what to do first eats more time than completing them in an inefficient order. 🤷‍♀️ And yes, it’s like talking to yourself like a coach. Just be a nice coach 💕 you are doing your best

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ohmu.
1y

Yeah. It's really hard to weigh different tasks against eachother. This is true for me when it comes to rules as well. Could be my autistic tendencies 🤷

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nikkiboo22
1y

YES! And it leads to the SAME dreaded feeling of disappointment after it’s alllll said and done. I truly believe in self talk being so so important. And I spend a lot of time by myself. I have been working on this the pst few weeks so this is very relevant to me rn. I’ve been continually telling myself to “just do it” “don’t think” just start moving my hands “get up” like I literally talk to my mind like I’m a coach or something. And honestly… it has not helped me prioritize a thing. HOWEVER… it has helped me actually get things done. And I found that the things I usually “prioritize” and not get done bc I spent so much time “prioritizing” which leads to etc etc. they aren’t even tasks that should be prioritized. I just did it so easily just bc I acted like I had to I had no choice. The level of accomplishment I feel by doing these small tasks and making them less big of deals then they really are.. has helped.

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