I have had the same list of to dos for at least a month. I get home from work and I don't want to do anything. Honestly, it doesn't even matter if I work, I never have the motivation. How do you guys motivate yourselves? I need tips/ideas
I had a revelation a few days ago because I struggle with the same issue: I need new things in life, if I keep the same to do list everyday there is no room for exciting new stuff that actually makes me happy… So now I try to do something I dread first for 5 minutes only (set a timer) and then continue with something I like. Sometimes I finish the task, sometimes not… there is always 5 minutes more tomorrow…
Sometimes it's easier to scratch the whole to do list and start over again. Chunk your tasks. When I realized my to do lists never changed I knew i needed a different set of tools. I really struggle with motivation/procrastination as well. Sending you love and solidarity
I tend to have to trick myself. This weekend I tricked myself into thinking some amorphous person was going to somehow see my house in the state it’s in. And managed to clean and hang a bunch of clothes and other laundry. Then I rewarded myself with a LEGO build. 😎
This might actually work for me! I actually get things done for other people or in case of a major deadline. So if i trick myself in believing i am doing a task for someone else, it might work
Maybe reduce the list, do only one task. Sometimes knowing what you have in your list can also be a lot overwhelming. Master one task daily then after few weeks add the next & keep going
I try to use the mornings, 10 minutes here, ten minutes there... Sometimes it gets me in the mood
I wish I could help. I have the same problem!
Lists don’t work for me. I either lose it or don’t get around to looking at it. I’m not real keen on my life right now. 😁
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Try focusmate
When I get bored of my daily list, I try to add fun things into it that I can use as rewards after the main tasks are done. Plus it prioritizes actually doing things for myself that I enjoy. Wednesday nights are specifically ice cream/root beer float nights for example. It helps a lot!
What if you make a plan with yourself and then just break it because you can? I don't listen to myself
What if you don't listen to yourself and just break the rules because you can? Eat the root beer float anyhow because you want it and are wallowiin self pity?
I struggle with this too. If the tasks have been on your list for more than a month and the sky hasn’t fallen yet, maybe you should consider if the tasks actually need to be done. Maybe there not as important as you once thought? For the tasks that you decide really do need to be done, could you get someone to help? I find working with someone who is structured and focused helps me be more productive. Ideally, you could help this person with something their working on too. This way you both benefit.
My therapist always said "motivation doesn't just happen. You have to make it happen" even starting on a small manageable task that's unrelated can help get the ball rolling. Listening to music and giving yourself rewards - even just changing your environment. I can only get work done if I'm in a library or coffee shop where strangers can judge me if I'm goofing off
Good point on them really needing to be done... And I would reach out for help with some of them too, I love this idea, but I don't have anyone. I need support and an accountability partner. And I'm also just super embarrassed to ask someone to be my babysitter...
I agree with all the above. Also there are some body doubling groups or calling a friend while i do chores that helps a lot. For me body doubling, simplifying and breaking it down in ridiculously small pieces (no shame) is what helps in a healthy way. I still struggle but I don’t feel like I am gonna drown now.
Touch Finder has been amazing. Maybe change up the names of the tasks to something entertaining...
It exists in this app at the place where are the articles
What's touch finder?
If you have the touch finder tool in this app, it helps you do exactly that
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I try to break it down, and start with the smallest part possible, and hope that I will keep going
I do this a lot. It's a lot easier for me to convince myself to do 10-15 minutes towards a goal instead of getting to a specific stopping point. Yes, it's less work than I wanted to get done. But it's still more than I'm doing now, so it's useful. If I have multiple To Dos, sometimes doing 5-15 minutes on 5 different things is easy more doable than 1 hour of a single thing.
