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quirkydelight
18
10 months ago

Divergent love

Do you think it is possible for a neuro-divergent person to have a fulfilling, healthy relationship with a neuro-typical person? I'm afraid that I have such intense emotions, especially when it comes to matters of the heart, that it's simply impossible for a neuro-typical person to match those feelings. So I end up emotionally starving, or they end up overwhelmed, or my rsd kicks in and I simply set fire to the whole thing (Metaphorically speaking, of course)... Any thoughts? Has there been any research in this domain?

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coursegrind
10mo

My wife and I are polar opposites. We do tend to find common ground but it’s not easy. This year we’ve been married for 30 years. We were friends before we married and had kids after being married for about 9 years. She’s pretty patient with me and my half finished projects. She had some health issues recently (Vestibular Migraines) for about the last three years which she’s finally coming out of. But it’s left her to deal with mental issues similar to PTSD and ADHD. Having gone through that we’re both like “it is what it is” and just try to deal things that come up each day. But she still rolls her eyes when she points to my half finished project and me looking the other way🙂.

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rodricklover
10mo

I think its very possible! You just need to find A person WHO is good with comunication and is patient and understanding with your emotions and needs.

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moajune
10mo

For me it is a similar person like AnnHelen just described..although he can be so focusses sometimes that he wobdered recentöy if he actually might be somewhere on the spectrum too- maybe the calm type if it should be ADHD related

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AnnHelen
10mo

Don’t know any resources, but I found my opposite person. We have the same interests, but he is very calm and understanding. My ex has adhd and we were a terrible match.

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quirkydelight
10mo

Thanks! I'm very happy for you! Btw, where did you find him? Does he have a brother who's single? 😉 (just kidding!!!)

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