I’m always putting things off till the last minute or until my executive disfunction kicks in and I physically can’t without having a breakdown. It’s really starting to bother not just me, but those around me. I’m trying to prove to my 12 yr old that she’ll be able to function without medication, but I don’t think I can function without it so why should I expect her to?
It helps to have big clocks and really big monthly calendars EVERYWHERE around your house, as well as bright coloured post its with reminders of “to dos”. A “buddy system” also really helps to keep yourself accountable and forces you to get things done — I make a plan of when I’m gonna work on whatever task/to do and schedule doing it when one of my friends/family is available as well so that I can call/video chat with them while I work on whatever (it’s makes it way harder to put off doing things “until tomorrow” when a time and plan has been set with another person!!). Even with meds it’s still an insane struggle to try and get your brain to do a task it doesn’t want to do — and the majority of times it still will not do it unless it HAS to (which is why the Buddy system is really helpful)
It’s possible for some to function. We’re all on a spectrum. You can show her your trying different things but it’s her journey and she needs to take charge. If you’re crashing you may need meds, but your brain can Do amazing things. Meds have side effects as do foods and stress and relationships…gotta find a stable
Why do you want to convince your daughter not to go on medication???
I think she means she wants to show her 12 year old how to first manage without and even after those efforts, if medication is needed, then that’s the path to go with.
